You won't believe this!!!

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Mon, 09-29-2008 - 10:22pm

I can hardly believe it myself!!   My mother......back in her apartment for 10 days....fell yet again last Tuesday and is back in the hospital.  She dislocated her shoulder and has about a 2 inch gash in her forehead.  She has had help there until noon everyday and had done quite well actually.  But, she is so stubborn.....just would not listen.....and apparently tried to walk in her apartment "just a few steps" WITHOUT her walker!   Grrrrrr....  She tripped and slammed into a door!  If you are counting, that is three major falls with major consequences in 4 months.


Now she has had an adverse reaction to pain meds and over the weekend was hovering somewhere around Pluto.......dillusional and totally not in her right mind.  She was screaming at the nurses to get away and screaming at me for being so cruel to her.  It has been a nightmare.  At least today (almost a week later) she is coming out of that, but has meanwhile developed some mild pneumonia and a UTI. So much for clinical details...I won't bore you with more.


And me???...... lets see.....suicidal might describe it!!!!


Now she has to move from her apartment which is in the independent part of a retirement facility.  We haven't the faintest idea where she will eventually move....but it won't be living by herself anymore.  I HOPE for assisted living, but she may find herself needing the "skilled" level which is usually not the most pleasant of arrangements.


My #1 dil and I are going to start tomorrow with boxing up kitchen stuff and knick knacks etc.  I guess I'll bring boxes of stuff home with me and store furniture in one of those rental storerooms until I know where she is going next and what she may or may not need.


Oh.....and this is a kicker......she only has 6 days of skilled care left for this year that Medicare will pay, then her secondary catches a small percent, but mostly she will have to pay on her own.  Will this never end??


We had thought since we dealt with this all summer that we might get away for a few days during Fall Break, but since that is next week.....guess not!  And my brother????Don't get me started!


Obviously I (we) greatly need your prayers!!!



     Hugs, Sooze    


Autumn


  



                               


              




Edited 9/29/2008 10:23 pm ET by sassysooze
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Wed, 10-01-2008 - 9:37am

I need both the hugs and the prayers!!

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Wed, 10-01-2008 - 9:45am

MC,


My brother.....well......first, he

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Wed, 10-01-2008 - 9:47am

Red,


You are right on target with everything you said.

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Wed, 10-01-2008 - 9:52am

Mare,


That stubborn streak and need for independence has landed her in the hospital in severe pain three times in four months.

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Wed, 10-01-2008 - 9:55am
Thanks Lor.
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Wed, 10-01-2008 - 10:00am
Thanks for your prayers and support, Rain.
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Wed, 10-01-2008 - 4:52pm
((sooze)) i am so sorry to hear about your mom. after caretaking for many in my family,some who have been in those medicated states,i can so appreciate what your going thru.my beloved aunt threw pillows at me in the hospital one nite,cursing me.they had to restrain her,she had broken her hip and

    

                      

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Wed, 10-01-2008 - 11:20pm

You DO understand!!!!!

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Thu, 10-02-2008 - 6:39pm
Oh NO>..I am so very sorry my dear sweet friend!!

       


 


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Thu, 10-02-2008 - 7:47pm

(((Sooze))) so sorry to hear this happened again. Parents want to feel independent and refuse to admit their limitations and your mom is a doozie! trust me I feel your pain as I knew her clone.


Many prayers goingout to you and the family that some suitable situation will be soon realized and you can finally get some peace. As for your brother....

Hugs, Bernie
Hugs, Bernie