You won't believe this!!!

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You won't believe this!!!
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Fri, 11-21-2008 - 10:07am

Some of you know what I have been dealing with mother for much of 2008....


So briefly......here is the current.


She is back in the hospital as of last Saturday.


Last Friday she developed some unknown extrememly virulent intestinal infection.....then tried to get out of bed (in a skilled nursing center) to get to her wheelchair on Saturday morning....fell and broke her ankle.  She knew she was to call for help, but did not. We spent much of Saturday night in the emergency room. 


Ankle needs surgery....can't be done until infection is gone.  When?????  And then what??


If you are counting....4 falls (with breaks and surgery) in 7 months.


I spent all last Thursday and Friday moving her "stuff" from storage to her very nice new place in assisted living.  She was to move the morning she fell!!   Now its doubtful she will ever see the inside of that facility.  My guess is that a skilled setting will be her only option and they are not great.


I am so "over" all of this. I go from tears to anger and back to tears.  I just can't hospital "sit" any more. I go over there for about two hours a day, but I have work to do....an especially busy time of year......and I have got to find some semblance of life for myself......I know that sounds like a horrible daughter, but I have been basically on hold for the entire calendar year of 2008......with every single day dependant on her needs.  She is mad about the fact that I am spending less time at the hospital....would not even converse with me last night......which backfired on her, because it made me even more determined.  At least she is only 15 minutes away now instead of 40.


I called my brother last night and told him to get down here.  I don't know what he can do for her, but he can relieve me for a couple of days!!  He , as expected, went on about all his obligations........like I've had nothing important in the last several years........and how it would cut into his Thanksgiving plans........but I held strong this time and said "figure it out, cause you need to be here". 


My mother can use your prayers and so can I.



     Hugs, Sooze    


Autumn


  



                               


              




Edited 11/21/2008 10:09 am ET by sassysooze


Edited 11/21/2008 10:10 am ET by sassysooze
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Fri, 11-21-2008 - 10:28am

Whew Sooze your life sure is challenging!

Aloha,

Lei

 

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Fri, 11-21-2008 - 11:10am

HI Sooze


Oh girl this is just not what you needed again. I am afraid you are right seems the only option for you Mom will be a skilled nursing facility. You are not a bad daughter just completely worn out with all you have had to deal with this year.


Good for you for standing strong with your brother. He needs to be there and he needs to know you will not take no for an answer. Your Mom will be so happy to see him.


Sending you lots of love and angels to help watch over you and your family.


Love and ((((HUGS)))))


                          &n
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Fri, 11-21-2008 - 11:50am

Yes, she does hurt...and of course I am sorry for that.

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Fri, 11-21-2008 - 11:56am

It is true...I am worn out, mentally, emotionally and physically.

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Fri, 11-21-2008 - 1:02pm

((((Sooze)))))

     

 

          

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Fri, 11-21-2008 - 7:30pm

oh ((((Sooze)))


how very awful..for everyone


I know how much you have done for her


but she bears some responsibilty ...she keeps doing what she shouldn't


and it is time for the brother to step in


enough already


you have our prayers, positive thoughts, best wishes


hugs


Dutch

 

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Fri, 11-21-2008 - 9:02pm
(((Sooze))) firstly I never want to hear you say you are a bad daughter. YOU ARE NOT!!! You have singlehandedly cared for your mom this past year while your brother made token efforts! I am so glad you fuinally laid down the law with him and made him share some of the care. doing this would cut into his holiday plans?! Excuse me...hasn't this impacted your entire life?! He needs a reality check and you need a break...take one! Ok, I'll get off my soap box now.
Hugs, Bernie
Hugs, Bernie
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Fri, 11-21-2008 - 9:40pm
Thanks Lor for your cyber hugs and words of support.
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Fri, 11-21-2008 - 9:42pm
Enough already is right.....but unfortunately there is no way to "quit" this situation.
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Fri, 11-21-2008 - 9:46pm

Bern you are a wonderful and supportive friend.

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