You won't believe this!!!

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You won't believe this!!!
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Fri, 11-21-2008 - 10:07am

Some of you know what I have been dealing with mother for much of 2008....


So briefly......here is the current.


She is back in the hospital as of last Saturday.


Last Friday she developed some unknown extrememly virulent intestinal infection.....then tried to get out of bed (in a skilled nursing center) to get to her wheelchair on Saturday morning....fell and broke her ankle.  She knew she was to call for help, but did not. We spent much of Saturday night in the emergency room. 


Ankle needs surgery....can't be done until infection is gone.  When?????  And then what??


If you are counting....4 falls (with breaks and surgery) in 7 months.


I spent all last Thursday and Friday moving her "stuff" from storage to her very nice new place in assisted living.  She was to move the morning she fell!!   Now its doubtful she will ever see the inside of that facility.  My guess is that a skilled setting will be her only option and they are not great.


I am so "over" all of this. I go from tears to anger and back to tears.  I just can't hospital "sit" any more. I go over there for about two hours a day, but I have work to do....an especially busy time of year......and I have got to find some semblance of life for myself......I know that sounds like a horrible daughter, but I have been basically on hold for the entire calendar year of 2008......with every single day dependant on her needs.  She is mad about the fact that I am spending less time at the hospital....would not even converse with me last night......which backfired on her, because it made me even more determined.  At least she is only 15 minutes away now instead of 40.


I called my brother last night and told him to get down here.  I don't know what he can do for her, but he can relieve me for a couple of days!!  He , as expected, went on about all his obligations........like I've had nothing important in the last several years........and how it would cut into his Thanksgiving plans........but I held strong this time and said "figure it out, cause you need to be here". 


My mother can use your prayers and so can I.



     Hugs, Sooze    


Autumn


  



                               


              




Edited 11/21/2008 10:09 am ET by sassysooze


Edited 11/21/2008 10:10 am ET by sassysooze
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Fri, 11-21-2008 - 11:11pm
Sooze, the others have all said what I would, so I'll just send you hugs, strength,

Jan


 

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Sat, 11-22-2008 - 11:29am

Thanks for the hugs and prayers.

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Sat, 11-22-2008 - 12:50pm

well I am glad you will have at least a few days respite


and it seems ,even tho the end is not in sight, you can cut down the time you go


esp since she is unappreciative


this morning we saw the Mother Teresa quote I like


"I know God won't give me more than I can handle, I just wish he didn't trust me so much"


so..one day at

Dutch

 

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Sat, 11-22-2008 - 2:23pm
Stay strong Sooze, your brother needs to do his part now, you have been through way too much with your mom.

       


 


                              &n

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Sat, 11-22-2008 - 6:13pm
Dont get angry but.Could your mom be doing these things for some kind of attention.Just a thought

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