Needing HELP,an hateing it!

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Registered: 07-28-2006
Needing HELP,an hateing it!
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Wed, 01-07-2009 - 9:28pm

I've been having a hard time with my Depression,SAD,my Agoraphobia this winter.I got it bad.


 


Now my heart wont let me be outside in the cold.


I decided to walk over to the ATM.I made it just past the nextdoor neighbors house.


My heart was beating very VERY HARD and fast.I had to get back home before something else happens.


I started grunting to lower my blood pressure.And after maybe 5/6 grunts .My heart did start to slow down.


     I just cant go out in the cold.And it bothers me ALOT that I NEED HELP. It's hard to ask for help.


I dont feel in control of things.I absolutely hate having to ask people to do for me.Gosh I cant even make it to the ATM.Across and down a bit from here.And I definately cant make it to the Drug store.


I am afraid If I cant even go pay my own bills.I will lose what independence I have left.This makes me feel


Very VERY sad.I feel I'll never be happy again.I definately got nothing to smile about.This years got to be better.


 

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 01-08-2009 - 11:12am

Hi Doreen


Sometimes the hardest thing we have to do it ask others to help us. We know we should be able to do this ourselves. IF the cold is so hard for you then you will just have to ask someone to help you out. There is not one person on the face of the earth who can do eveything for themselves. Everyone needs help. It doesn't make us weak it just makes us human.


I am sorry this winter has been such a hard one for you. Keeping doing the best you can.


HUGS


                          &n
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 01-08-2009 - 11:34am

(((Doreen)))

     

 

          

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 9:29pm

First let me ask youif you have ever made it to the drug store by yourself before? If you have has anythign tramatic happened to you during the trip? If not sit back and seriously think to yourself...nothing happened that last time and nothing will happen now. One good thing to try before trying this, and it may sound stupid but put some dance music on and dance. It gets the endorphins moving which are feel good enzimes and will help you feel better/calmer before going out. If you dance long enough you will not even notice the trip to the drug store. Play your favorite song and keep it playing in your head the entire time you are out. This will also help the feel good mood.


I know SAD is a real problem for some people. Sitting outside in the sunlight when you have it for about ten minutes daily should help that as well. These are not problems you cannot overcome. Agorgphobia's affects are increased by the amount of energy you feed into it. If something has happened to you to make you fear the outside, and if dancing does not do it, seek help. Being held captive in one's home is no way to live and you need to find out what has caused you to face

Hugs, Bernie
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Registered: 07-28-2006
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 10:04pm

I havent had a problem going to an from the drug store or the ATM and my home.I like going to those two places and am quite comfortable.The problem is my heart defect.MVP and cold weather dont mesh at all.


It causes rapid hard heart

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sun, 01-11-2009 - 1:48pm

The way that nurse treated you was criminal! Patients have enough stress just being in the hospital and deserve only the best care available. Hope you reported her.


As far as the cold air affecting you have you ever tried one of those hand warmers and placing it in a scarf around your neck to warm the air you are breathing in? Its just a thought but it might help. Heck I might even try it myself:)

Hugs, Bernie
Hugs, Bernie
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Registered: 03-01-2006
Mon, 01-12-2009 - 7:30am

I have read what the others posted here..some very good advice!!


I want to reiterate what others said: it is a sign of STRENGTH to ask for help when you need it, not a sign of weakness


Sitting in the sunlight will be VERY good for you, even if it by a window..vitamin D..very important


and remember: winter will end..does every year..LOL


the cold that is keeping you in

Dutch

 

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Registered: 07-28-2006
Mon, 01-12-2009 - 11:48am

Oh yes I reported the nurse.An the very same day.I was sent home.For my saftey.


You know your suggestion might just work for me.I have a rice bad for the neck and shoulders.I could heat that in the microwave.


Thank you all.


An Dutch?Your words also helped me mentally.


Love doreen

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 01-16-2009 - 10:12pm
Amen!
Hugs, Bernie
Hugs, Bernie