Is spring out there??
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| Sat, 03-07-2009 - 2:03pm |
I sure hope so. We are having sunshine and springlike temps today. My daffodils are all blooming and the crocus has been up for about a week. I hope Mother Nature is not trying to fool us!!
I have been fighting a nasty sore throat, congested sinuses and depression for about a week. I think this last year of dealing with my mom is taking its toll! She has been in assisted living for two weeks now. I'm still trying to figure out what she needs and can store there and what I need to keep, store or sell??? And.......she fell again! Thank goodness, nothing but bruises this time, but you would think with all she has been through, she would be extra careful!!! Grrr!!! Her therapists say that she has either "lost the ability or chooses not" to understand what she is supposed to do. She still walks incorrectly with the walker or leaves it completely and guess what.......falls!!! She has a very nice electric wheelchair which they would like her to use all the time. She will use it down the hall to go to meals, but for some reason not in her room. Her room is more like a large studio apartment.....plenty of room for the wheelchair. I am so over dealing with this.
Dh and I are going to get out tonight and go to a college/community production of "A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Forum". I'll pack plenty of kleenex and cough drops. It should be fun though...we know several of the actors and its a funny show. I need something funny!!!
I hope you all are enjoying some milder weather. Have a great weekend!
Hugs,
Sooze


(((((Sooze)))))
ahh ((sooze))
its been a heck of a time for you..no wonder you feel like you do
and the stress just leaves your immunity down and you are more vulnerable to the bugs out there
a few good laughs will be good for you
and hot drinks and sucrets!
hugs
Dutch
Dutch
Hi Sooze
Hope you feel better soon. There are some nasty bugs running around. I am sure you are run down with all you have had to deal with your Mom. She may not realize any more that she must use the wheelchair or walker to not fall.
We did enjoy the night out and the play was hilarious.
Yes, I have let the stress overwhelm me and I really have got to change my thinking pattern.
Well, the sore throat has gone and the cold is much better.
Hi Sooze
So glad you are feeling better. As for your Db well at least he is admiting he has not be any help with this and as you said is at least giving you moral support now. As for you Mom I am sure she just doesn't understand why everyone is giving her what she considers to be a hard time. She doesn't know she needs that walked sometimes or the wheel chair. Some where along the day that information gets lost and it just doesn't make sense to her. This it when it gets hard my friend. Patience is worn thin and you just have to find a way to be even more patient with her. She is like a little child that really doesn't want to make trouble but just cannot remember not to. Hang in there.
Love
well, somethings you can just not control...and that has been your situation
but,as you say, you can change your thinking....I wish you luck
sounds like you have made inroads in that area
I read what you told Mare about your brother and mother...significant changes/acknowledgements/validations
some situations the best you can do is get through them as best you can
is there a support group for care givers?
is there a relief organization?
plan something else nice for yourself
thinking of you
hugs
Dutch
Dutch
I hope spring is here too. So sorry to hear your mom is being stubborn. But I suppose if I were fighting my ailments when I got old I'd do the same thing.
We went through the same thing with my dear aunt when she went into assisted living. Luckily my sister-in-law is an rn and explained she doesn't want to lose her independence which she had for many years. Many older folks feel as though if they give in and use a walker all the time or wheelchair they'll just get worse so they fight it. We had to bribe my aunt with little trips to her favorite hairdressers or restaurant to get her to use her walker. After about 8 months she finally would just grab it without thinking. We tried to keep her out of her wheelchair bc my sil said it was healthier for her to use her walker. Better for her heart and circulation.
We also set up her room with pictures and many of her knik-knaks and items from her home which made her more comfortable.
It's so very hard on you I know but my aunt was there for me my whole life and I kept telling myself that. She died comfortably and peacefully. It all paid off. Hugs Cindy
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