Is any body listening?

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Is any body listening?
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Sat, 03-21-2009 - 9:52pm

Is any body listening?


 


I have not been on this board for some time because I did not think it was appropriate to tell silly stories about my days here on planet earth while so many people  are loosing their jobs and their homes. Here in California our unemployment is 11.5% = we have the highest unemployment rate in the United States.  Also, we have the most home foreclosures and bankruptcies and businesses closing than any state in the country. With all this going on around me it is hard for me to think positive thoughts about any thing going on in my head.  As a result I have been hiding from the world just to keep my sanity.


 


I need to unplug myself from the world for a while just to save myself from feeling utter hopelessness, desolation, anguish, misery and gloom as I watch my family and friends and neighbors slowly slip into oblivion for which there is no return right now.  You see girls every day when I go out side to get my mail I see more and more of my neighbors being kicked out of their homes. On t.v. I see kids crying and parents in tears loading up their cars with all their worldly possessions and it is to much for me to bare. When I see this I think... why didn't they tell me they were  loosing their home? And why didn't they say some thing in the beginning when they lost their jobs. But then I think if I was them would I tell any one I lost it all and had to move out of my foreclosed home and into a motel... I mean how humilating would that be... for anyone? Now it has gotten so bad  in California that more and more people are sharing all their dirty little secrets with the world. Which I think is a good thing because the more we know about each other/s problems and woes the more we are willing to help our fellow human beings.  


 


There is absolutely nothing I can do by myself  to stop this downward spiral we are all finding our selves in these days but talking about this with all of you might help me cope with it all.  And who knows what the future holds for us .... William and I might find ourselves in a bad place too  if things do not turn around for everyone around us.


 


Don’t get me wrong William’s CPA Corporation is doing a booming business the problem is more and more clients are not paying us for the work being done on their taxes. And how can we pressure our clients that we have known for years and years and most have become like family members into paying us when in the same breath we have to tell them to file bankruptcy and get rid of the house? We can’t and we won’t do that to people who need us now more then ever. Bill and I don’t have kids and we live within our means so we can do this for our clients for a while but then what?  


 


It is hard for me to see William  be so depressed when he gets home late at night  because all day he has been listening to people telling him that they have lost all their savings and retirement funds as the stock market continues to crash. I am running out of happy thoughts to share with William to give him  hope that this economic crises we are in now will not last forever girls. I don’t know what to say or do to ease any body's  pain any more because what ever I say just sounds stupid even to me when it leaves my mouth.


 


How are you girls coping with this economic disaster? Are you feeling the pain? How many of you know what I am talking about? How is this economic depression affecting your lives? Do you go to a store one day and the next time you go back it is out of business like how it is going on here? Are your neighbors or friends or family members losing their jobs and their homes? And if they so how are you coping with it mentally.  I would really like to hear how this is economic down turn is affecting your world ladies? I don’t want to be the only one on this board talking from my heart about how bad it is here in my world and be all alone in my plight? I need truth and I need company and I need to feel that  I am not the only one who is feeling depressed about all  this? Come on speak up what ya got to loose?


   


Lastly, have any of you seen this video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_WMTTrOrKVI  


that these high school kids made here in California telling the world how this economic disaster is destroying their well being and the lives around them?


 It is titled is any body listening?

Aloha,


Lei


 

Aloha,

Lei

 

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Registered: 02-19-2009
Sun, 03-22-2009 - 8:04am

Hi it's good to see you. The only ones listening are those that are unable to help because they're pretty much in the same situation. We're just hanging on by a thread but at least one of us still has a job.


I learned something just yesterday about so many of the homeless people. As I was coming out of a store this old woman was sitting in

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Sun, 03-22-2009 - 12:35pm

Hi Leilani


I think everyone is listening just not much can be done right now there are so many out of work and being kicked out on the streets. My Ds lost his job in January and if he hadn't been living with us he probably would not have been able to keep his car or have a roof over his head. Things are tough out there that is for sure. Being retired dh and I are keeping a very tight leash on our money and spending less. Thank heavens we are stable and in no danger of loosing our home.


I think in times like these we all have to do what we can to help those that find themselves in so much trouble. Things will turn around again and more jobs will be out there again. It will happen.


Telling funny stories and keeping things lighter help to ease the worries we all have. Life goes on and we all do what we have to in this economy. Depression is so easy to fall into when things are as tough as they are

                          &n
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Mon, 03-23-2009 - 9:08am

Hi Lei.

Susan siggie
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Mon, 03-23-2009 - 4:53pm

Aloha Cindy!


Mahalo for your reply... now I feel better about writing stupid silly stuff on this board when everyone else is eating it big time!


Nice to know your there listening to me!

Aloha,


Lei


Aloha,

Lei

 

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Mon, 03-23-2009 - 5:03pm

Yeah another cyber sister listening! Okay I will get back to driving all you girls nuts with my stupid stories about my life. I just did not want to ... aaah... think I am ignoring what is going on out there in the real world... and that I don't care what is happening to everyone by posting my crazy stories... I know that sounds stupid but I am really concerned about what people think about me... especially right now with the world going to helll in a hand basket.


Mahalo for putting my mind to ease... I will write once I get my lap top back. The hard drive crashed on it errr.... I like to write using my laptop and watch t.v. but I can't do that right now... maybe this afternoon when John fixes it I will be back in action.


Missed you all!

Aloha,


Lei


Aloha,

Lei

 

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Mon, 03-23-2009 - 5:43pm

What is going on around me just breaks my heart. I agree about looking at the stuff I can do instead of what I am unable to do... And what I can do is bring sunlight where there is only darkness by getting back to writing again. I can write ha Sooze? ha ha ha! How long have you known me on this board? ha ha ha!


I just don't want to sound unsensitive when I write about what is in my head... when the world is dictating to me that I should be writing something else that all can relate to right now like how to get out of the doom and gloom mode. Plus I think I should right about how I am fixing the world when I am not doing a darn thing about any thing but hidding out from the world so it won't affect my brain any more than what it is now.


Right now with all the horrors going on in my neck of the woods ... here in California... all I

Aloha,

Lei

 

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Registered: 02-19-2009
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 8:05pm

Oh yes I'm poor and listening so can't do much to help. Every now and then I throw something into the boxes for the food pantry's when I can. I just love seeing people happy. I don't get jealous I'm so very happy for anyone in this world that has a chance to enjoy life. Trust me I do when I can.


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Sun, 03-29-2009 - 11:34am

yes we are listening to the extent we can bear it...sometimes it is just too much


here in my county unemployment is over 10%..but this was a depressed area even before it became widespread. I see it first hand..I have home-tutored students who live in apartments in converted chicken coops....whose parents are cashiers at the gas station....if they are lucky to have a job


we are retired but I still work subbing ,tutoring ,etc..the extra $ helps..I have to pay half of my med ins...so 3 days subbing covers most of it


we are still more fortunate than most..and I count my blessings..I contribute to charities when I can and to the local food pantry


as others have said, some of this is out of control but I have been active in writing to my representatives on both state and Fed level because I want them to know my concerns. I have to say they have been great: responsive and their votes have told me they care about about what I care about


I am pretty disgusted at those who have been arrogant and greedy, who have taken advantage of their fellow citizens who have been doing what they should. The extent of their damage is massive.


my only hope is that this is now a chance to make it right..I keep thinking of the line from the "bionic Man" "we can rebuild it, we can make it better than before"


if not, God help us

Dutch



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