Help! William has Malignant Melanoma

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Help! William has Malignant Melanoma
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Fri, 04-10-2009 - 1:01am

Aloha Girls it is me Hula Girl...


A couple of years ago William had prostrate cancer... and now ... My dear sweet husband William  has been diagnosed with Malignant Melanoma  stage 2. The doctor told us a few weeks ago that he has a 45% chance of surviving this.... As a result,  I have not been back on the board to answer any replies to my last post because after that post we got this terrible news and I fell apart. Sorry for not answering your replies but I did read all of them and am thankful for your thoughtful insight.


That is one of the reasons why I had second thoughts about writing this post but then I thought what the heck you all will forgive me and come to my aid now.


Can any one help me cope with this horrible news? I don't want to go to a cancer board where I don't know any one ... and they don't know me and do not know my history and I don't feel like explaining it all to strangers.  I just don't have the energy to spare... do you understand? Plus,  I am afraid they will think I am a drama queen or something.  But most importantly you girls are my cyber  family  and you understand me.... and have pulled me out of tight spots before in my life.... help!


My Sweet William  is the air I breathe and my reason for living ... no joke.... and I am not exaggerating here girls.... My sweet William is my life and I am falling apart here dear cyber sisters on this board that I have known for years and years. Please...  I need your strength to give to Sweet William in his hour of need.


As most of you know we have no kids and so we rely  on each other for our happiness. May 5th we will have been married for 25 years and the idea that he might not be around until the day I die is an idea I will not be able to live with.


He dies I die with him... and most of you know that is true. You girls have gone through my darkest times with my health and it has been a pure miracle that I am alive today... again not exaggerating my reality.... and you girls know it.  You girls on this board  and William have pulled me through when I thought I was a goner in the past so I am counting on you again... I know I have no right to do this to you guys ... but I am desperate and you guys are my cyber buddies.


I thought my darkest times were behind me... and now I find out every thing I have gone through these past miserable years I have lived on planet earth  is nothing compared to this horrible feeling I am now experiencing in my heart.  Boy girls this really hurts....


Sorry for this post girls...  but like I said...  I do not know where else to turn... You girls have pulled me out of so many dark places in my life... that it is not even funny.  I never thought I was going to live through the stuff I have live through in the past...  but with your love and understanding I found a way to keep going.


 I feel bad that I am asking for your help again after all you have done for me in the past 7 years I have been on this board .... but I feel so alone out here in reality... but in cyber space and posting on this board makes me feel that at least I have a life line to hold on to when there is none in reality to grasp.


Please help me! I need your positive input to keep me going.  Please if you are reading this say something please to me  before I have a nervous break down.


Lastly, I am attaching this  picture to show you girls how happy we are together and you can see  that without Sweet William I have nothing to laugh about or enjoy in life... I am nothing... what am I going to do .... I want the good times with William  to keep going on forever!


 


 

Aloha,


Lei


 

Aloha,

Lei

 

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 04-10-2009 - 12:16pm

Hi Leilani


I am so sorry to hear that your dh has been diagnose with this horrible disease. There are no words to express how this makes me feel for you both. I know he is your life and been your rock though so many of your darkest days.


Now is the time when he needs you to be as strong for him as you can. It isn't over yet and I am sure he will fight this. Many who have had this problem do beat it and that is the way you have to be thinking right now. Where is the problem now you didn't say.


You know we are all here for you and will do our best to help you both get through this. I will be keeping you both in my prayers!!


((((((Leilani))))))


                          &n
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Fri, 04-10-2009 - 1:01pm

Thank you for throwing me a life vest this morning Mary. The cancer is on his cute little face. He is adorable in that picture I attached ha? It was taken on his 60th birthday.


The first surgery they did a couple of weeks ago did not get

Aloha,

Lei

 

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Fri, 04-10-2009 - 2:04pm

Hi again Leilani


Well it would take a lot to gross me out. I am not the least bit put off by things like this. I don't get sick to my stomach at all. I sure hope that when you next see the cancer specialist he will have good news for you both. On the face would not be good but I am betting that having a scar is much better than what is causing it.


You are so right what are cyber sisters for to

                          &n
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sat, 04-11-2009 - 6:38pm
Dear Leilani... you and William have been through a lot the past few years and you have always come out on top...you will do it again this time, I know it!!

       


 


                              &n

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sun, 04-12-2009 - 2:35am

Hi, Lei. I jst read your post about William. I'm sorry you all are having to go through all this sort of thing again. I hope that by the time you read this, you will have found out that they got all the malignant tissue and that he is on the way to being as good as ever. But I know that you and William have a very special relationship and that the strength of it will help both of you get through this.


Take care of yourself too!


Kat

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Mon, 04-13-2009 - 6:27pm

So you know where I am coming from since your husbands cancer was worst then mine's in regards to survival rates.


There is no way on God's green earth that this cancer could have spread to other areas. I know that in my heart and soul that to be true. William see's a dermatoligst every 4 months and I check his body in between those check ups.


I think what floored me is how fast skin cancer grew on his body! Whatz up that? And plus the cancer area was not black or brown it was flesh tones. It looked like a rash!


Well tomorrow we will know... Mahalo for always coming to my rescue when I need you Gabby!


Aloha,

Lei

 

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Mon, 04-13-2009 - 7:36pm

Mahalo Kat for all the positives vibes you are sending our way!


There is no way in heck that this cancer had time to spread because William see's his dermatologist every 4 months. So tomorrow when we see the cancer specialist it has to be good news.... just

Aloha,

Lei