could I be +, sex right b4 af to start?

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Registered: 05-29-2003
could I be +, sex right b4 af to start?
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Sun, 07-27-2003 - 8:24pm
I had unprotected sex the day before my af was to start and the day after it ended and thought it was a safe time but now I am half way through my cycle and my breast are already sore and I am very tired and I never get these symptoms half way through my cycle. Could I have gotten pregnant by having sex at that time? I am really concerned because I never feel this way. Any suggestions?
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Registered: 04-24-2003
Sun, 07-27-2003 - 10:12pm
Well, I was just hoping someone would answer your question, but so far, no one. I opened this board and the first message I see, is yours, and the question you asked is exactly what I had in my mind, its so funny. I am really inexperienced, so I am no help, but I was curious to see if it’s possible to get PG 3 days before AF, not that I have ever heard of it. For someone with a regular cycle of 28 days and O around CD 12-14? Now in your case, you had unprotected sex after AF, and there is a strong possibility that you can be PG. But I hope some one more experienced answer this and solve this for us. This is my first month ttc and 25 july was the first time my DH came inside me and first time in my life I had semen inside, that is beside the point that nothing prepared me for this experience. I really wonder how can you retain so much fluid inside you and how can you avoid the mess on bed which my DH didn’t like at all. I hope there is a lady who knows it all and can give some suggestions. I am sorry if it sounds off topic.
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Registered: 07-26-2003
Sun, 07-27-2003 - 10:18pm
the wet spot can be a little icky, but its all in the name of good fun

it can help to wear a panty liner/ pad which will catch the semen, just as it would blood

otherwise, just relax and let gravity take its course, unless youre really adept at keeping your legs in the air!!!???
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Registered: 04-24-2003
Sun, 07-27-2003 - 10:33pm
Thanks for your advice, but I am surprised that no one ever told me that you have to wear a pad or a liner after it. Anyway, one learns with experience…but what an experience, I must say! But is it normal that so much comes out of you? Then how do you get PG? Just curious.
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Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 07-28-2003 - 1:41am
I've not ever used a pad after sex. I roll to the side and use kleenex or a wash cloth! While ttc, it can also be helpful to put some pillows under your pelvis and keep your legs in the air. At least that is what I've heard. If not ttc, you could also go to the bathroom right away.

As far as getting pregnant right before your af is due -- no and kind of. It is impossible to get pregnant after ovulation and before af. The trick is that factors before you ovulate can move that ovulation date arround. So for instance if before you ovulate, you have to, say, take the bar exam and you're really stressed out about it. It can delay ovulation for a period of time or even make you not ovulate. So if you had a stressor and ovulated really close to when you normally get that visit from Aunt Flo, you could get pregnant. Also, some women ovulate pretty close to the end of af. My mom got pregnant three times right after her period... once with twins.

On top of that, sperm can live inside for as long as four days. (While trying to conceive, though, it's usually helpful to get as much action as you can.)

I'm going to recommend a book to anyone who wants to know more about this stuff. It's called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility." It will help you conceive or prevent pregnancy by teaching you about charting temperatures and detecting your cervical fluids to detect ovulation. Because as some of us learn the hard way, it's not always day 14!

Good luck to you both.