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Scared to death...
| Wed, 07-30-2003 - 10:35pm |
Anyday know and I'm haveing nightmares,
daymares about the pain I have to endure. I
can't get my mind off it. It is my every other
second thought. I am scared to death to have
to go through this pain again. I am talking
the head coming out and the after pain. I will
never forget what it was like to pee after having
a baby and it was the most painful thing I have
ever felt in my entire life. It was so bad for
me that I had to pee in bath water for weeks
and this was the only way I could go. I am so
scared I almost cry about it. I really hope I
get an epidural. I hope that it lasts so I don't
feel any labor or the head coming out.
daymares about the pain I have to endure. I
can't get my mind off it. It is my every other
second thought. I am scared to death to have
to go through this pain again. I am talking
the head coming out and the after pain. I will
never forget what it was like to pee after having
a baby and it was the most painful thing I have
ever felt in my entire life. It was so bad for
me that I had to pee in bath water for weeks
and this was the only way I could go. I am so
scared I almost cry about it. I really hope I
get an epidural. I hope that it lasts so I don't
feel any labor or the head coming out.

If you don't want this birth to be like the last, do something about it. Create a birth plan and found an OB that agrees with your wishes, wants, and needs. There is no reason why a birth should be a scary experience. I'm not all about the whole natural birth and be one with the pain thing, but that doesn't mean I shouldn't have an enjoyable experience. Perhaps I'm weird, but I don't really recall the pain of pushing my children out. The moment they were born, everything seemed to dissappear and I was so happy.
As for an epidural, put it in your birthplan that you want one and want it to last until after the birth. You'll just need more help pushing the baby out, no biggy.
Try to calm down and enjoy this pg.
Erika
Erika
mom to Michael, Allison, Alexander and
I also said with my 1st I didn't want an epidural, but let me tell you I had one with both my children and its a god sense(?). I was induced with both of them and I hear its more intense to be induced, with my next one, I want to try to go on my own. Both time they were done well because I didn't feel much of anything.
Good luck and keep us posted Jen
Jen
Proud Mommy to
When I began to get depressed about the idea of delivering again, a friend recommended the above book. It helped me identify what I wanted and didn't want to repeat, and gave me the confidence get it. I ended up changing doctors mid way through my pregnancy and writing a birthplan that was not a series of "I-don't-wants" but a communication about how I wanted to be handled. (For instance, I wanted to wait as long as I could to try to go without induction. I was induced but when my body was closer to ready, so it didn't hurt nearly as much.)
The system sometimes forgets that we deliver the children, not it. So let your doctor know your fears, and if s/he doesn't work to fix it, change doctors. Find someone who will really listen, not just act like they know best because they're the doctor.
I actually enjoy looking back at the birth of my second. Though it still hurt, it doesn't dominate my memory like it did with the first.
Good luck, and read that book.