Thursday morning -

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Thursday morning -
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Thu, 06-26-2003 - 9:27am
Good morning - it's another steamy day here. I was at the park at 6:00 - doing a speed walk with a friend who I just happened to bump into there. Now I have to start on the windows - they are really a mess after all the rain they had here this spring. Then I'm meeting my "drinkin' buddy" for lunch - will be great to see her again!

Yesterday was a "happy/sad" day for me too - like Martha. I was so happy to be home and had so many things to do, etc., but it was my DS's 37th birthday, and I don't even know where he is to send him a card. I had established email contact with his counselor while we were in England, and when I emailed him a few weeks ago to ask what he needed for his birthday, the email was returned - unknown, etc. I was so upset - just to let the day pass without being able to call or send a card. I thought he might call here - but he didn't. Once again, I have to remind myself, that he makes the choices that have determined his lifestyle - and by rejecting our lifestyle, he has given up a lot.

So - on that pitiful note - I'll wish you ladies all a great day! I plan to make mine great too! I'm smiling, Becky ! LOL. Rosemary

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In reply to: roslea
Thu, 06-26-2003 - 9:51am
Rosemary, I wish I could say something brilliant & profound regarding your son that would make you feel better about today. I just don't have the right words, but I'm sure you know the love & support that's here for you. Many hugs! Cal
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In reply to: roslea
Thu, 06-26-2003 - 10:14am
Rosemary hon I know just what you are going thru..and its not easy..my daughter has come into my life twice and then back out again..I have her e mail and addy but she will not respond to any of my efforts to get in touch..and then there is my son who when he found out he had a sister hasnt spoke with me since...that was almost 15 years ago..but you are right in that they have made the choices but it doesnt make it any easier..my heart goes out to you ((((Rosemary))))..Judi
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In reply to: roslea
Thu, 06-26-2003 - 11:54am
Thanks for your support - after years of hurting, I can handle it pretty well now. Rosemary
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In reply to: roslea
Thu, 06-26-2003 - 11:57am
Oh Judi - I didn't realize we were such kindred spirits. I guess we never stop hoping that things will change. Thanks - Rosemary
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Thu, 06-26-2003 - 4:56pm
Dear Rosemary,what a heartache.I hear a lot of that in todays world.The children ages 35 to 45 seem to be the most troubled.Rest in the knowledge that you gave him the opportunities--that he rejected it all is his undoing.We can only do what we can do.Hope he does let you know where he is though.That's hard!!!Get your mind on the little ones in England and the dd.martha
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In reply to: roslea
Thu, 06-26-2003 - 8:53pm
Rosemary, I understand how you feel, as I had a similar problem with my ds, although in my case it's been a happy ending. Not too many years ago I fully expected to receive a phone call at any time telling me that my ds was no longer alive, but with the help of some very good friends, excellent counselors and a realization finally that life really is worth living, he's now in excellent mental health, has a wonderful girlfriend and just celebrated his 40th birthday. My thoughts are with everyone who is having to deal with such heartache, and there does seem to be an awful lot of us. diana

 

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In reply to: roslea
Thu, 06-26-2003 - 10:00pm
Rosemary.

Sorry to be so late responding to your email, but it was a busy day. DH went on a driving trip for Ford and I took advantage of every minute that I had alone.

I felt sad reading about your son and it is such a shame that he is not in touch with his family. Family can mean so much. It must make you sad everytime he comes into your mind. Perhaps it won't be too late for him one day.

Take care and enjoy getting back with all your friends..When are your knitting buddies getting together again.

Sleep well..Becky

 


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