Need your honest opinions here

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Need your honest opinions here
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Thu, 06-19-2008 - 9:49am

Hi all, I need some honest opinions about this.  Let me give you a quick run down.


I just got out of an abusive relationship, had to move in with DD.  I need my own home, my only source of income is SS, so I dont have a lot of money.  I posted an ad on our local craigslist asking if anyone wanted a roommate or had a house to share.  I got this answer, my first thought was no I dont want to be responsible like this at this time, I need peace of mind to do what I want when I want and to work on getting my life back together.  So I very politely refused, and profusely thanked him.  Now I am wondering if I did the right thing and should I email him back, meet with him and see if we could work things out.  Below is his response to my ad, PLEASE TELL ME WHAT YOU THINK!


 


36 male near greenville but actually in the upstate area, i seen your
ad and it caught my eye, i live alone in a 3 bedroom house with one
bath, im  sweet, loyal, kind, im looking for a female who can be
companship to me, help me clean and cook , in exchange the rent wold be
reasonable,  , live in country and have over 5 acres for your dog , i
understand you dont have much money but im willing to help you out, let
me know if your interested and were you are located in sc and a number
to get in touch with you


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Registered: 10-11-2004
Thu, 06-19-2008 - 10:19am

Boy thats a risky thing to do, you just got our of a abusive relationship and you don't have access to run a legal brackground check on this guy. How old are you and this guy is 36 I would blow him off in a heartbet. Are you well known in your town & if you are go to senior center and put an add up for a roommate. Good luck I think that your responsible enough to do the right thing.

Betty L. Keep and Angel on your Shoulder & a prayer in your heart.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 06-19-2008 - 10:32am

I would be very hesitant to do this.

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Registered: 03-30-2003
Thu, 06-19-2008 - 10:42am

I agree with Betty. I think there's red flags in his letter. We had a bad experience with selling a car through Craig's list, nothing tragic but just someone making up a sob story to get the price of the car


 



 
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 06-19-2008 - 10:56am

Beverly, My inner sense tells me NO, NO, NO.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 06-19-2008 - 12:18pm

No, No, No, a thousand times No!

lottie77~~~

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Registered: 01-05-2006
Thu, 06-19-2008 - 12:52pm

Thanks to all who gave me your thoughts.


I was not (am not) looking at this as any "romantic" relationship, but his word companionship scared me and makes me think he needs a dog for companionship.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-19-2008 - 2:30pm

I agree with everything said. Craigs list is way too impersonal way to find a living arrangement. How about using a local senior service organization which could match you up with another woman looking to rent a room? In our area, a lot of widows want to stay in their paid for big houses, but need extra income. With your own room and bath, plus shared common area, you might find the haven you need. Plus, there would probably be no lease, so you could get out of the arrangement if needed. It might be worth the $$ for you to run and add looking for such an arrangement.

Jacquie

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Registered: 01-05-2006
Thu, 06-19-2008 - 2:59pm

Thanks for your response.


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Registered: 03-25-2007
Thu, 06-19-2008 - 9:07pm

Hi Beverly:


Gosh, when I read your posting all I could think of is:

Always, Lou
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Registered: 01-05-2006
Fri, 06-20-2008 - 7:36am

Thank you for all the good info.


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