Wedding takes a detour
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Wedding takes a detour
| Wed, 07-30-2008 - 11:44pm |
Our DGrD has downsized her wedding plans and rightly so. Things were getting testy with her DF and future DMIL about expenses. As soon as $$ was offered, the demands began. It was turning into a catered affair with lots of extras. DGrD told me the problems and asked for advice. I suggested she needed to have a good talk with fiancee and decide what THEY want. I reminded her that DH and I eloped over 50 yrs ago and we've lasted longer that a lot of friends who had big weddings. So, they decided that they don't want to go in debt and all they really want is to be married and celebrate with family and friends. So - instead of an outdoor wedding ceremony with arbor, flowers, lights, etc., they will be married in the small church in their town. Instead of the big rental hall with catered food, they are having the reception at a local pub which will provide buffet type food and an open bar. The place is closed until 9 PM, so we will have it all to ourselves. This means DGRD does not need to get a liquor license for $200, and hire a bartender. No DJ needed, the pub has a sound system and we'll all supply music (hooray - I get to put in some Jimmy Buffet stuff). A live band is playing at 9PM and the minors will have to leave when the bar goes public. They will do pictures and cut the cake at the church, instead of later at a reception where they could be worn out. After that it's a 2 block trip to the pub and we can all kick back. This saves them about $3000! We will still decorate the church with all the silk flowers and candles I've been collecting. She will get to wear her custom dress, her DF will get to walk her down the aisle and everyone should be happy. Her DM says she wants whatever makes DD happy. Only person acting up is stepDM who things every wedding should be "traditional". Well, she ran the wedding for her eldest DD, has another one coming up in a few years, so she needs to back off. She likes fancy weddings so she can dress to the teeth - almost stole the spotlight from her own daughter. I'm just so proud of DGrD being so sensible.

Good for her, Jacquie. DD thought she wanted all the hoopla and had it but later said it would have been nice to save that money for a house down payment.
I agree the bride and groom should decide what THEY want. YOu can't please everyone anyway.
Good for your DGD to cut down the size of the wedding and the expenses along with it.