Can I vent a little?
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Can I vent a little?
| Tue, 08-05-2008 - 9:45am |
DH has an habit of commenting negatively on everything - people on TV, ads, junk mail. You name it, he'll grouse. Think Walter Matthau in Grumpy old men. Most of the time I can handle it, but I'm not doing well with the early morning stuff. I like to have my tea in front of the TV and catch up with what's going on. Sure, it may all be repeats and fluff pieces, but I need this time to come alive. DH gets up at daybreak, does his email, then comes up to join me. It's a non-stop one-sided monologue from him. I can feel my blood pressure going up. Today I moved into my computer room to check my mail to read my mail AND get away. He comes in, looks around, and asks if I've found the sewing machine book I was looking for yesterday. I said no, but I will eventually and he doesn't need to start going thru the cabinets, as I know it's exact size and color. Then he starts in with the "it's probably gotten shoved to the back and you need to organize better. This from a man who's basement work area always looks as if a tornado hit it! I told him he was aggravating me and he stormed out with a "just trying to help" retort. This the one part of retirement that is bugging me. Dare I put a do not disturb sign on my door? I'd really rather relax in the living room, can't ban him from it, but want him to stop with the comments. He says I just want to shut him up and he won't. Argh.

Awww Jacquie, I'm sorry to hear that and of course you can vent.
He's got to get something to do outside the house. Any volunteer work you can get him to do? Or you could start nagging him to do chores-- and then he'll seek private space once in awhile.