Overbearing, bulling men (BIL)
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| Mon, 11-03-2008 - 8:35pm |
Do any of you Ladies have a relative you just hate to visit. Not the relative, but maybe their spouse. Well that is my BIL. Since I have been gone most of the summer, I had forgotten to only visit my DS when her husband was out.
After my appointment today for my MRI results (no breaks, just some stressed tendons and ligaments) I call my elder DS about stopping in for a cup of tea. I have not seen DS since I left for our trip. I just forgot about her husband. Elder Sis married a man about 17 years ago who is quite a bit older than her. She is now 67 and BIL is 84. Now I know that his health hasn't been the best the last few years and most of the time I can take being around him for 30 minutes or so, but today took the cake. He never left us alone, not even for 5 minutes. I didn't even get to visit with DS, he dominated the conversation the whole time. Told me all about his big time son (he has 9 children, from 2 different wives), then I had to hear all about his teacher daughter and finally I heard all about the Presidential candidates. Grrrr---, I just wanted him to shut up and let me visit with my sis for a few minutes. BIL is one of the most overbearing people I have met in a long time. How DS stands it I d not know, all I can say is that I would have planted him in the back 5 acres long ago. (he truly believes men are smarter than women, he has said so more than once). I stayed as long as possible and then made an excuse to go home. (the drive is 45 to 50 minutes). So now I will make another trip down to Seattle in a couple of weeks, just so I can visit with my DS. But I will make sure DBIL is not around.
PS: I am the only sis, who will visit Elder Sis at her home, just because of BIL.

Lou I know what you mean, my husbands uncle was that way and you could not stand to go and see the aunt because he did all the talking. (both dead) He would tell Vern that he was doing his job all wrong and that he was suprised that Vern made SGT. He was smarter than his wife and all his kids. Take your sis out and just enjoy having a conversation alone with her, and tell him that you can't enjoy being with your sis because of his nonsense. Welcome home,
Betty L. Keep and Angel on your Shoulder & a prayer in your heart.
Betty L. Keep and Angel on your Shoulder & a prayer in your heart.
I agree with Betty. Take her out for a visit. My stepfather was like that, so DSis and I would make plans to take DM shopping and to lunch. One time he wanted to know why HE couldn't go and DSis told him we needed time for girl talk. Then he wanted to know what kind of girl talk. DSis said we wanted to talk about HIM! I thought he would bust a gut, he just glared at her. DM could hardly contain the giggles.
Jacquie
Betty L. Keep and Angel on your Shoulder & a prayer in your heart.
Betty L. Keep and Angel on your Shoulder & a prayer in your heart.
Thank you all for your kind words.