I wasn't very nice tonight--

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I wasn't very nice tonight--
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Sun, 11-30-2008 - 3:33am

to my DGD.  I've had our DGD since Friday.  Tomorrow we will be taking her home.  Jessica, is something of a brat.  She is 8 and too grown up for her own age.  She negotiates everything or she goes on & on about something until she gets her way. 


I haven't had her spend the night since last spring.  Then she was complaining that her cousin (my GrtN) is always here also.  So I have put off having her because of our trip.  But my DDiL started in on us last Wednesday about taking Jess for a couple of days and there was really no way out.  Today wasn't bad until it was bed time.  Jess had been playing computer games, then she talked to her mother and got ready for bed.  I read her three stories and let her turn on the radio to listen to Christmas carols and go to sleep.  I tucked her in and she seemed ok.  I was sitting on my bed when in she comes wanting to sleep in our bed.  I told her No, you sleep in your Aunt Chrissie's room with all of your babies.  So I tucked her in again.  Next thing I know, she is wailing about wanting to go home.  She wants her MOMMY.  Now, Jess is a drama queen.  Everyone in the family knows it.  Jess also has been complaining that her 4 yr old sister gets to sleep with Nana.  (DS  & DDiL are building a new house, they were living in an RV until two weeks ago, then they moved in with DDiL' mother). I did try and reason with Jess, but she just was not going to listen.  So I took her out of bed, downstairs, opened the front door and told her here it is. 


I think I scared the hell out of her.  It is cold, 34 degrees and wet out now, plus we have had terrible fog for the last few days.  She just stood there looking at me.  I told her that there was no way I could drive 76 1/2 miles in this weather and if she wanted to go home, I would call her Dad and he could decide what to do.  Well, she did stop crying (she didn't want me to call her Daddy).  I brought her back in the house, put her back to bed with the promise that she could call her Dad & Mom in the morning.  Five minutes later she was asleep.  But I don't feel very good about how I handled this situation.  I'm sure that I will hear about this for some time from my DiL.  DH and I have been driving to Auburn 3 or 4 times a week working on the new house (it takes about 2 hrs to drive each way). This house should of been completed two months ago.  Plus, DDiL has been also working on the house. DDiL was on her way to bed when Jess talked to her at 10 PM. So all of us are working very hard on getting this house finished before Christmas. 


So now you know I am a really lousy Grandmother.  I think I need a good stiff drink.  But thanks for listening. 

 Always, Lou
Always, Lou

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Sun, 11-30-2008 - 11:12am

Are you kidding? That brat deserved what she got. I have DGrDs 6 and 8 who act like that and don't have them over too often for that very reason. They tell tales if I get hard on them. On the other hand, our 24 yr old DGrD has raised her 5 yr old to behave and expect consequences. I had the 5 yr old for a day when her DM was on their honeymoon. We had a great time, went to the park late in the day before I handed her back to her DGrM. I had mentioned to little one that the park was near her DGrM's house. When we had to leave she demanded we walk, not drive, to the house. I said no, I wasn't carrying her car seat, toys, clothes across a super busy street. She refused to get in the car. Well, she got the shock of her life when I picked her up and sort of dumped her in the back of the car. Then I climbed in, put her in her seat and buckled her down. Also told her not to dare unbuckling or trying to get out. She was shocked. But, later when I was leaving her DGrMs house, Missy came running to give me a big kiss and tell me that she loves me. Guess I didn't damage her psyche to much - LOL. Kids just need to be told the limits!

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Sun, 11-30-2008 - 8:32pm
lou your not a bad gramma! but you are a gramma under stress,and hey,were not young anymore,who has the patience to cope with these young kids today. i know i dont. yesterday we took my son and his 3 children out to lunch in celebration of the oldests dgs birthday. well the two little ones wanted to come home with my dh and myself but i know once i got them here,that they would want to sleep on the floor in the living room where its cold and not sleep in the bed because their afraid. so i told them that i loved them but

    

                      

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Mon, 12-01-2008 - 12:13pm

LOL...Lou, I just returned from spending 5 days & 4 nights in 2 rooms (hotel) with my 12 yr. old DGD (DH & 2 DSs).

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Mon, 12-01-2008 - 9:12pm
cal i was thinking about you as others were also,if you had heard anything on that mri..and i see you havent. between that and grandkids that dont listen..i feel your anxiety,thats a big crowed to be locked up with for 5 days...!! many hugs and keeping you in my prayers.mindy

    

                      

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Mon, 12-01-2008 - 9:41pm

Cal:


I am so sorry that you have not received your MRI results yet.

Always, Lou
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Mon, 12-01-2008 - 10:17pm

Well Ladies:


I do appreciate that I am not the only GM who has a difficult (bratty) DGnD.


Jess went right to sleep after I showed her the bad weather and told her I would call her father.

Always, Lou
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Mon, 12-01-2008 - 10:55pm

Lou I think

Betty L. Keep and Angel on your Shoulder & a prayer in your heart.

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Tue, 12-02-2008 - 9:21am

No, I don't think you are a bad grandma, but i will join you for that stiff drink! LOL


I think you gave her a "reality check"


You showed her what the options were....kids need limits and guidelines..sometimes reasoning does not work and a good "visual" will ! and it did


You didn't actually push her outside! (did you??!! LOL)


I had my dgds, 2 and 4 ,here Sun. Dgd 2 gave her dissertation on thunder and how it scared her and hurt her ears....why she did ,I don't know..there was no thunder, just rain


later she fell asleep..right on the living room floor!


anyway, you did fine....and dil should have no complaints..she wouldn't want her dd out in that weather anyway!


as ever,

Dutch


Dutch

 

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Tue, 12-02-2008 - 10:02am

Lou, Your post is priceless.

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Thu, 12-04-2008 - 12:39am

Dutch:


No I did not push my DGrnD outside, but I did make her stand in the doorway.

Always, Lou

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