Pad bulges

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Pad bulges
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Tue, 10-25-2005 - 9:57pm
Hey folks. Was wondering if I could get a female perspective. I work at a school and have a female co-worker who yesterday had an obvious pad bulge from her back pocket. In fact, she was keeping her pad in her back pocket, and the pink was showing on top very badly. I was torn between telling her and her being embarrassed, or not telling her and feeling even more embarssed when she'd realize it. Is it better to tell her or not?
This is not the first time, either. A few months ago she had a pretty good sized stain on her butt, but again I didn't say anything. I don't know if I did right or not. Are other people like me afraid to say anything, and is this doing the person more harm than good? Maybe she has a lot of trouble at "that time."

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Registered: 03-13-2001
In reply to: brad2542
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 1:10pm
Oh, this is a tough one. If it were me, I would much rather someone told me instead of me just going through the day not knowing. The little embarresment of someone telling me would seem a lot less than realizing that I went through the day like that. Onething to think about though, the approach. Maybe a note set on her desk would be easier for both of you. Laura

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In reply to: brad2542
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 10:07pm
Thanks, Laura. However, neither of us has a desk. It would be too obvious if I slipped her a note. If I found her alone and could whisper, maybe that would work. I think if it happens again I'll tell her and hopefully won't lose a friend.
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In reply to: brad2542
Thu, 10-27-2005 - 2:23pm
Yeah, I would go ahead and tell her. It may be uncomfortable for a bit, but she will figure out that you are a true friend in the end. Take care, Laura

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In reply to: brad2542
Thu, 10-27-2005 - 6:27pm

Hi Brad,


cl-flowers

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In reply to: brad2542
Thu, 10-27-2005 - 11:30pm

Thanks Milady,

I guess that's a possibility, although awkward. I try to look at it from her perspective. Not to be crude, but if I had my own "bulge" in front and it was noticeable, or my fly was down, would she say anything? I wouldn't mind her telling me, but that's me. I find in every setting there's those who are very open, "Gotta go change my pad; I really need to masturbate" to those who would never say they do anything. I guess everybod's different.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: brad2542
Fri, 10-28-2005 - 9:50am

They really are very different,


cl-flowers

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In reply to: brad2542
Sat, 10-29-2005 - 9:51pm

Thanks Milady. You have been helpful.

This is going to have to be my last post. I am shutting down my account. Best wishes to you.

Brad2542

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: brad2542
Sun, 10-30-2005 - 11:21am

Best wishes and Blessings Brad2542!



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In reply to: brad2542
Thu, 11-03-2005 - 5:03am
well IMO, i would have told her, I would rather have someone especially a woman tell me something this personal, then have a guy do it, hopefully she will thank you for it and save her the embarassment.
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In reply to: brad2542
Thu, 11-03-2005 - 5:05am
oops I didn't see brad, sorry, I would still tell her, saves her a lot of embarassment, and she can fix the problem. Good Luck again.

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