You MUST get out there and make some friends!!! I know that it is hard, but it is absoutely critical to keeping your sanity as a SAHM. It makes all the difference in the world to know that a friend is coming over for coffee or something. I am in a similar situation because my husband travels a lot for work, so it is usually just me and the boys during the week. I have a friend whose husband works a lot too, and we eat dinner together with our kids at one of our houses once a week - it so nice to share a pizza and some wine and let the kids play while we talk. It gives me something to look forward to during the day, and it makes those long evenings go by so much more quickly.
Now, how do you go about making friends who can come over for dinner? Well, first you need to get out and just meet other moms - find a MOPS group, The Mom's Club, Mothers and More, etc. Check the Web to see if there is a chapter near you. Talk to the other mothers at the MDO and see if you have anything in common with any of them (and remember, it probably won't happen instantly - it takes time to cultivate friendships). You mentioned that you attend an occasional playgroup - well, try to go more often! You will never get to know the other moms if you only go occasionally. When I first started going to my playgroup, I really didn't feel like I had anything in common with the other women. But I kept on going back because I was so bored and lonely, and now they are some of my best friends (after 5 years). So go to playgroup, go to the park, get out and take walks in your neighborhood and meet your neighbors, go to storytime at the library, whatever it takes. YOU will most likely have to take the initiative to forge new friendships - YOU may have to do the inviting over for coffee at first, and YOU may have to organize some Girls Nights Out, but I promise that it will be worth it.
And by the way, enjoy these days of having enough time to yourself, because once your new baby comes, they will be over LOL. Good luck!
Now, how do you go about making friends who can come over for dinner? Well, first you need to get out and just meet other moms - find a MOPS group, The Mom's Club, Mothers and More, etc. Check the Web to see if there is a chapter near you. Talk to the other mothers at the MDO and see if you have anything in common with any of them (and remember, it probably won't happen instantly - it takes time to cultivate friendships). You mentioned that you attend an occasional playgroup - well, try to go more often! You will never get to know the other moms if you only go occasionally. When I first started going to my playgroup, I really didn't feel like I had anything in common with the other women. But I kept on going back because I was so bored and lonely, and now they are some of my best friends (after 5 years). So go to playgroup, go to the park, get out and take walks in your neighborhood and meet your neighbors, go to storytime at the library, whatever it takes. YOU will most likely have to take the initiative to forge new friendships - YOU may have to do the inviting over for coffee at first, and YOU may have to organize some Girls Nights Out, but I promise that it will be worth it.
And by the way, enjoy these days of having enough time to yourself, because once your new baby comes, they will be over LOL. Good luck!
Paige (mommy to Harper, John, and Gib)