my dd is a better person than i am!!

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my dd is a better person than i am!!
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Wed, 02-11-2004 - 10:46am
o you guys, i am just so proud!! lol. but really, my four yo is a better person than i am or will ever be, and i am so proud of her today! she's been dealing with two little girls in her prek class who have some nasty little attitudes and say some very mean things when they don't get their way. my dd has had her feelings hurt alot and we have talked quite a bit about what she can say or do when situations like that arise. today all that hard work payed off! this am dd was waiting in line to wash her hands, and one of the "mean" girls was in front of her. alleria (dd) asked the other girl if she had signed her name yet (a perfectly normal nice question) and the other girl turned on her and started yelling, saying "NO I DIDN'T AND DONT' ASK ME AGAIN, AND DON'T STAND BY ME ANYMORE CAUSE YOU'RE NOT MY FRIEND AND I HATE YOU!!" i just kinda stood there with my mouth open, i mean alleria has told me some of the things these girls say but i always kinda assumed she was making it out to be worse than it was b/c dd is a sensitive kid and gets her feelings hurt rather easily. but she's not kidding, this girl is MEAN!! lol. so i was just standing there trying to decide what to do, if i should say something or tell the teacher or ignore it or what, when alleria dealt with it herself! she looked the girl in the eye and said calmly "well i always love you even if you hate me, but i don't like it when you talk like that to me, so i'm going to leave until you want to be friends again!" and then she walked away! i just stood there in awe of my daughter, i've told her to deal with it that way but i never in a million years expected her to actually DO it!! i was so proud of her i could have cried. honestly, she is a better person than i am. if someone had acted like that to ME first thing in the morning, after i had tried to strike up a nice conversation, and before i had had my coffee, you can bet i would not have handled it that well. i would have stooped right to their level and yelled "well i'm not your friend either, so hmmph!" lol. the girl wasn't even talking to me and i'll admit i was a bit pissed. but alleria was cool as can be, and nice to boot, it was so cool. i told her how proud i was of her, and she was kinda confused, like "well, that's what you told me to do, so i was doing it that's all." then in line that girl came to stand by dd and as they were walking up to breakfast the girl gave dd a big hug and said "you're my friend again" and alleria just smiled and said "i'm always your friend hannah." then dd pulled me down so she could whisper in my ear "mommy, you're the best mommy, you always know what to tell me to do!" seriously, my eyes teared up! it really made the last four years worth it. today i was really truly thankful that i have the privilege of being her mom, it's such an honor.

just had to share,

clarity

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Wed, 02-11-2004 - 10:57am
wow, I don't know how you didn't cry I would have bawled,, what a good girl,, way to go!! She killed her with kindness,, What a great story!!
~Kim~,, mom to 3 girls~~
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Wed, 02-11-2004 - 10:47pm
i know, i still want to cry happy tears!! lol. it's so amazing when the hard work actually pays off and your kids become the independent thinking little creatures that deal with things on their own, it's just too cool. i had a mid-year teacher conference with dd's teacher this afternoon, and i told the teacher about the little incident and how proud i was of alleria. the teacher was proud too, but upset to hear that these two girls have been saying things like that. (i hadn't felt the need to talk to the teacher about it before because i just figured it was something dd needed to learn to deal with sometime, so she might as well learn now) the teacher said to alleria "ally honey, why didn't you tell me this was going on so i could have done something about it?" and alleria just shrugged her shoulders and said "i didn't need to, my mommy told me what to say and it works, so i didn't need you to help me!" i felt about 12 feet tall, lol. we moms know it's a rare moment when our kids acutally make us look GOOD for a change, so i'm gonna enjoy this one for all it's worth!

clarity

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Thu, 02-12-2004 - 9:37am
Clarity-

I cried when I read your post. How sweet is that? I would have melted into the floor. What a great girl you have there!

Jill