OH NO

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Registered: 02-03-2004
OH NO
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Thu, 02-12-2004 - 3:49am
Hi my name is Amber. I have a ds named Dante, he is 2 months and all he does is cry. at first I thought it was from his gas or him being constipated but now I'm thinking what if he is colicy? I give him tummy drops he is now pooping good and all he does is cry when he is up. I am here by myself and I am on my last nerve.I never get sleep because he sleeps 20 min here and there. He is up all the time crying and crying, I hold him, I put the nuk in his mouth and he still cries. I even tried to let him cry thinking he will stop after 5 to 10 min. forget it. I need help here. I don't know what to do anymore. I cry all the time which makes me more tired and here I am at 3:30 and I probaly won't go back to sleep till 5. He didn't get to sleep till quarter after 1. please any one give me some ideas. I am losing my mind, I feel like I'm a bad mother.

Amber
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Registered: 12-28-2003
In reply to: sweetrose00
Thu, 02-12-2004 - 6:26am


It is hard when you can't seem to soothe a baby. I would talk to your pediatrician about it - perhaps changing formula might help. My middle child had the same crying problem - changed her formula and she was a happy baby.

Good luck!

mom2four

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In reply to: sweetrose00
Thu, 02-12-2004 - 7:30am
Hi there 1st of all HUGS TO YOU!!!
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In reply to: sweetrose00
Thu, 02-12-2004 - 7:51am
thank you girls for the help. I did switch his formula, usualy he falls right asleep when I put Country music on, and noone wants to help me, mom lives 10 min away I ask her to come up for a little bit, when she does shes here for 15min the most.it's ju7st lately i've been going kuku. thanks again girls
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Registered: 12-28-2003
In reply to: sweetrose00
Thu, 02-12-2004 - 9:32am
I agree with trying some kind of droning noise ... my oldest liked the vaccum cleaner under his bed ... if things got really bad I put him in infant seat on top of the dryer. Whatever works so you can get some sleep...
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: sweetrose00
Thu, 02-12-2004 - 9:33am
I posted a little to you below but i figured i'd post here too. I think you should see his dr. Maybe he can offer some ideas. My DS hardly ever slept either. He would feed for almost an hour, then it would take at least an hour to get him to sleep and less than an hour later it would start all over 24 hours a day so I know what it's like to be so tired that you are physically ill. Luckily though my DS was pleasent when he was up- just he was up all the time. I used the swing,vibrating bouncey seat, music and drives in the car even if it was 2 a.m. You really need some time for yourself. If i was there i'd watch him for you. Can you find someone? Is you bf gone out of town or just gone during the day? Hope you get some answers from your doc as well. Please keep us posted and take care!

Jill
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Registered: 02-02-2004
In reply to: sweetrose00
Thu, 02-12-2004 - 11:36am
Amber, I know exactly how you feel. My first dd was the same way and even though that was 15 years ago, I remember it and shutter like it was yesterday. I agree with the other ladies that you need to talk to your doctor, not just your baby's dr but your ob/gyn also. I ended up getting some wonderful advice on how I could better handle the situation from mine. I also agree that certain noises may help, the sweeper, the drier, I use to take mine for a ride in the car and when she fell asleep I'd remove carseat and all and just let her sleep in her seat. Try leaving a radio on low, try a nightlight or total darkness, whatever works. If changing formula and other advice from dr doesn't work, try another dr. I was told my daughter had colic then I was told she was lactose intolerant, then I was told I was an over reactive mother. That's when I found a new dr and discovered that my baby had serious digestive problems.

Don't sell yourself short, you know your baby better than anyone. Don't let anyone tell you differently.

I wish I was closer I'd be happy to watch him so you could get some well deserved sleep. when he does sleep, don't worry about the house or anything that you think needs to be done. Instead concentrate on you, soak in the tub, take a nap, talk to a friend, whatever will help you keep your sanity. But above all please do not think you are a bad mother. This will pass, I promise.

Jill

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Registered: 01-30-2004
In reply to: sweetrose00
Fri, 02-13-2004 - 5:54pm
1st of all BIG FAT BEAR HUG to ya!!!! I know how hard it can be. I have a 3 month old boy. I was told about the 4 S's:

SWADDEL - Wrap him tight like a taco. If you dont know how ask his dr to show you the right way to.

SWING - A swing is a life saver. If he is in it 90% of the day, it's OK if it keeps you sane.

SHOOSH - Ya know that sound. Hold him close and do it right in his ear. You wont hurt him and they say it sounds like the womb.

SIDE POSITION - When you have him wrapped up tight hold him where he is lying on his side.

Do all these things one at a time or all together. I know the shooshing and swaddeling helped my little bundle of joy.

Good luck and keep us posted,

Jennifer



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Registered: 02-15-2004
In reply to: sweetrose00
Sun, 02-15-2004 - 11:29pm
Hi ((((Amber)))). My ds is 11 months old, and I understand what you are going through. My ds was colicky. He cried all the time except when he was nursing. I cried all the time, even when he was nursing. When I look back at that time, those were the darkest days of my life. I timed how long he cried one day. I had to stop counting after 13 hours, because it was so depressing. Even now when I think about it, I feel like crying. These are supposed to be some of the happiest days of your life, and your sweet baby isn't cooperating.

Here is what I learned:

Talk to your doctor and make sure there isn't anything wrong with Dante. Next, make some time for yourself, even if it is as simple as taking a long bubble bath. I spent hours in the tub with my sweet baby crying in his crib in the next room. I knew that he was safe though, and I had already checked all the obvious reasons he might be crying. In my area (Oregon) there is a program called Healthy Start that provides services for first time mothers. They offered a lot of help when I needed it. Talk to your ob/gyn to see if you might be suffering from some ppd. Your dr. might be able to recommend some support groups of women with colicky babies. In my experience, everyone had an idea why my ds would not stop crying. I didn't swaddle him right. I wasn't feeding him enough. There was something wrong with my breast milk. I wasn't feeding him frequently enough. I wasn't laying him in his crib right. The list went on and on. I always felt bad after someone made suggestions like this. I would doubt myself. Please don't doubt yourself. If your baby is healthy according to your doctor, just keep loving him and cuddling him and telling him how precious he is to you, even if you feel like tearing your hair out.

One thing I would recommend is beginning a routine with your child. Make sure you start his day at approximately the same time every morning and develop a good daily routine. For bedtime, develop a ritual, like bath, jammies, story, bottle/nurse, bed. This is a life saver. The book Babywise by Gary Ezzo might give you some insight on a routine.

My sweet angel started sleeping through the night at 14 weeks old. He would sleep from 9:00pm to 6:00am. What a relief that is. Now, though, I kind of miss the time I would get to spend with him in the middle of the night, when it was just the two of us. Crazy, I know. Now he sleeps for 12 straight hours at night, and 2 2hr naps during the day.

This stage will pass. Your darling child will turn into a pleasant baby. He will start sleeping through the night Everyone will stop you in the grocery store and say, "Is your child always this happy?" And when you look at that darling face, you will feel your face light up with joy. Congratulations on your sweet son, and hang in there, because this time will pass.

If you need any suggestions or encouragement, just let me know. Also, keep in mind, you are the best mommy out there for this dear boy. God picked you for a reason and so have faith in yourself.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: sweetrose00
Mon, 02-16-2004 - 2:16pm
My ds was the same way at that age. He was tested for reflux and everything and it turned out to be nothing. What eventually worked was reading the book Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. Its probably at your local library. After reading that I put him down for a nap every 2 hours with music playing. Once he started sleeping more during the day he was much happier and even slept better and longer at night. He turned out to be the better sleeper of my two kids and sleeps 13 hours straight at night with a 2 hour nap during the day. Good Luck!

Stacey, Robyn (4), Garrett (22 months)