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| Thu, 02-12-2004 - 3:49am |
Hi my name is Amber. I have a ds named Dante, he is 2 months and all he does is cry. at first I thought it was from his gas or him being constipated but now I'm thinking what if he is colicy? I give him tummy drops he is now pooping good and all he does is cry when he is up. I am here by myself and I am on my last nerve.I never get sleep because he sleeps 20 min here and there. He is up all the time crying and crying, I hold him, I put the nuk in his mouth and he still cries. I even tried to let him cry thinking he will stop after 5 to 10 min. forget it. I need help here. I don't know what to do anymore. I cry all the time which makes me more tired and here I am at 3:30 and I probaly won't go back to sleep till 5. He didn't get to sleep till quarter after 1. please any one give me some ideas. I am losing my mind, I feel like I'm a bad mother.
Amber
Amber

It is hard when you can't seem to soothe a baby. I would talk to your pediatrician about it - perhaps changing formula might help. My middle child had the same crying problem - changed her formula and she was a happy baby.
Good luck!
mom2four
Jill
Don't sell yourself short, you know your baby better than anyone. Don't let anyone tell you differently.
I wish I was closer I'd be happy to watch him so you could get some well deserved sleep. when he does sleep, don't worry about the house or anything that you think needs to be done. Instead concentrate on you, soak in the tub, take a nap, talk to a friend, whatever will help you keep your sanity. But above all please do not think you are a bad mother. This will pass, I promise.
Jill
SWADDEL - Wrap him tight like a taco. If you dont know how ask his dr to show you the right way to.
SWING - A swing is a life saver. If he is in it 90% of the day, it's OK if it keeps you sane.
SHOOSH - Ya know that sound. Hold him close and do it right in his ear. You wont hurt him and they say it sounds like the womb.
SIDE POSITION - When you have him wrapped up tight hold him where he is lying on his side.
Do all these things one at a time or all together. I know the shooshing and swaddeling helped my little bundle of joy.
Good luck and keep us posted,
Jennifer
Here is what I learned:
Talk to your doctor and make sure there isn't anything wrong with Dante. Next, make some time for yourself, even if it is as simple as taking a long bubble bath. I spent hours in the tub with my sweet baby crying in his crib in the next room. I knew that he was safe though, and I had already checked all the obvious reasons he might be crying. In my area (Oregon) there is a program called Healthy Start that provides services for first time mothers. They offered a lot of help when I needed it. Talk to your ob/gyn to see if you might be suffering from some ppd. Your dr. might be able to recommend some support groups of women with colicky babies. In my experience, everyone had an idea why my ds would not stop crying. I didn't swaddle him right. I wasn't feeding him enough. There was something wrong with my breast milk. I wasn't feeding him frequently enough. I wasn't laying him in his crib right. The list went on and on. I always felt bad after someone made suggestions like this. I would doubt myself. Please don't doubt yourself. If your baby is healthy according to your doctor, just keep loving him and cuddling him and telling him how precious he is to you, even if you feel like tearing your hair out.
One thing I would recommend is beginning a routine with your child. Make sure you start his day at approximately the same time every morning and develop a good daily routine. For bedtime, develop a ritual, like bath, jammies, story, bottle/nurse, bed. This is a life saver. The book Babywise by Gary Ezzo might give you some insight on a routine.
My sweet angel started sleeping through the night at 14 weeks old. He would sleep from 9:00pm to 6:00am. What a relief that is. Now, though, I kind of miss the time I would get to spend with him in the middle of the night, when it was just the two of us. Crazy, I know. Now he sleeps for 12 straight hours at night, and 2 2hr naps during the day.
This stage will pass. Your darling child will turn into a pleasant baby. He will start sleeping through the night Everyone will stop you in the grocery store and say, "Is your child always this happy?" And when you look at that darling face, you will feel your face light up with joy. Congratulations on your sweet son, and hang in there, because this time will pass.
If you need any suggestions or encouragement, just let me know. Also, keep in mind, you are the best mommy out there for this dear boy. God picked you for a reason and so have faith in yourself.
Stacey, Robyn (4), Garrett (22 months)