Constantly MAMA?

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Registered: 11-17-2003
Constantly MAMA?
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Sat, 02-14-2004 - 6:59pm
I have a 22 month old and just lately actually since she was really sick with a flu bug about 3 weeks ago she has done nothing but cling to me saying MaMa if I leave her sight she cries MAMAMAMA. She use to go to Daddy and Grandparents, but now if I am not around she will cry nonstop and refuses to eat. I sure hope this is just a phase. Has anyone else experienced this? She is literally attached my leg like Gorilla Glue. Don't get me wrong I love that she loves me so much, but I need some time to just take a shower by myself. She is a beautiful, happy little girl as long as I am nearby. Should I just leave and let her cry it out just so I can have some time? I would feel very selfish if I did that, but I think for my sanity I need something. My hubby tries since he works from home. Any suggestions would be helpful. Thanks so much!

Trish :) dd-Hanna

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Registered: 04-17-2003
In reply to: hehmommy
Sun, 02-15-2004 - 10:14pm
If I were you, I would just leave and spend some time alone doing what YOU want to do. Get completely out of the house where you won't be tempted to run back if you hear her crying. You need a break every now and then, and your daughter needs to enjoy time alone with her father or grandparents. It will teach her that yes, mommies do go away sometimes, but they ALWAYS come back. She will grow up more independent, secure, and confident once she learns this. And don't worry about her not eating - no child will willingly starve herself. She will eat when she gets hungry - it's amazing how young they learn to manipulate us! I know that it's hard to leave them when they are crying, but I truly believe that it the best for everyone. It does not make you a bad mother to look out for your own needs once in a while. Good luck!

Paige (mommy to Harper, John, and Gib)