Working Mom Jealous Of Me!
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Working Mom Jealous Of Me!
| Wed, 02-25-2004 - 8:36am |
My Hubby works at an office with alot of women.Well,when he came home from work yesterday,he told me about a conversation he and two of the ladies at work had.He was joking about our 5 month old son and her 7 month old daughter getting married some day,and she said "No,I hope she marries an older man."(My Hubby is 18 years older then I am.)The other lady said"Why is that?",and she said,"Well look at the way he takes care of Heather!"(Talking about my Hubby and me.)"She gets to stay home with their baby!"It is nice to be reminded now and then how blessed I am to get to stay home with our sweet little boy!Of course it doesn't take an older man for that to happen,but the point is a working women is actually jealous of me!That makes me feel good!LOL!

you are such a nice person,, I would have taken offense to that commet, like the only reason we are home is cause our husbands are ''LETTING'' us,, I went through the drive in at Wendy's the other day and all ''I'' had was a $50.00 bill so they had to make change with the manager well I used to be a manager there way back when I was in school and after too,,
I truly think that most people (women, mainly) could stay home with the kids if they really wanted to. My husband and I just had a plan since before we got married. We relied on his income (even when I had an income) and didn't live extravagantly. The women who work and "wish" that they could stay home just (in my opinion and at least in this area of the country) don't want give up the 3000 sq foot house, the Lexus suv and the hair and nails, etc.
That being said, I think it's nice that they think your husband "treats you nicely". By being "nice" to you, he is really being a family man and is being nice to his kids as well. Unfortunately, there are too many men (and women) who do not value the family the way that they should. His co-workers should be a little jealous. I know that my husband's co-workers are.
Just my thoughts.
Melissa
I love being a SAHM. My kids make good grades, they are in sports etc they come home to a mother not a baby sitter. My husband and I help with homework and all the perks. Sometimes I here people talking about how I don't work. I do work all the time. It's not easy to keep everything going. But I am proud to say that I keep our family going and they love it. If I ever get down and mention going back to work, they freek out. They tell me who's goina do this or that for us.Always makes me feel good to hear them say that.
By the way, my husband calls me Household tec.
I also see a lot of "liberalized" men who think that the women should contribute to the income so they can buy those toys. I think it's really sad. :( I have a best friend who stays home with her kids, and her DH is CONSTANTLY throwing it in her face that she should be "working" because she has her teaching degree, and she could afford the daycare with her Bachlors Degree. When my DH was growing up, his mom "HAD" to work, because his father liked to take long expensive hunting/fishing trips using lots of unpaid time off. So, she had to be the responsible income to support two kids (and later was a single mom). She doesn't ever let me forget that she "COULDN'T" stay home! In a way, I have always wanted to call her bluff (like it would do any good now, both of her kids are grown), but I also feel really sorry for her being in that predicament. She sure couldn't change the stripes on that tiger!
I feel so lucky to have a DH that can see how well it all clicks for me to stay home, INSPITE of being raised by a proffesional mother! I honestly think he took one look at my family and saw how different things were in my family (my mom is a "retired" SAHM, and my parents have been married for 36 yrs, and they are still obviously, madly in love), and maybe found "the missing link" for his. He loves and appreciates his mom and everything she has done for him, but he has never denied his family life growing up wasn't exactly normal (of course I never realized my family life WAS normal! LOL). The few times I've had a casual job, DH BEGGED me to quit! He missed having me home when he got home, and he was sure to point out how aggitated the kids were since I was working. I am so lucky that he saw things that way, some men would blame the restless kids for being "spoiled" staying home with mom until then (I have heard DH's say that before!).
Anyway, I feel sorry for so many women who are brainwashed, strongarmed, intiminated, or guilted into working by their DH's. Of course, I have also seen women "use" their DH as an excuse to HAVE to work too.
Angie