Help me talk to DH about staying home.
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Help me talk to DH about staying home.
| Sun, 02-29-2004 - 7:44pm |
As many of you know I recently went to work at a daycare center.
| Sun, 02-29-2004 - 7:44pm |
As many of you know I recently went to work at a daycare center.
Now, the best thing to do is to start making a financial list. Take your salary, subtract all the expenses that you working would entail: gas, wardrobe, childcare, eating out, taxes etc. When you are done with that list, you will probably see that the amount you are making after all that is not as much as you thought it was. Take that number and see if you can cut down on your expenses. Babysitting is a great idea. One thing that is really needed in my area is a "drop-in" babysitter. Have certain hours that a mom can drop off their child with just a call before (or reservations) so that grocery shopping or a haircut can be had! I know plenty of women who do this.
As far as your husband, have you even talked about this to him? Or are you guessing that he would be against it? You need to have a heart-to-heart. Who knows? Maybe he will be so happy. If you will be cooking at home, cleaning and taking care of the house (which is a job in itself), he may be thrilled. If he isn't, then you need to discuss what his problems are. Is it financial? Who knows? But until you both talk about it, you will never know.
And I would councel you to talk now. It is very rude to take a job and then at the last minute cancel. JMO
First of all I don't think you are being old-fashioned about staying at home. Both of my Grandma's stayed home with their kids and did well financially on one income. Both my parents and my IL's did the two income thing, opposite shifts with in between care. They are financially worse off! There is not a dollar sign you can place on being home full time, it's priceless. I think most people can live on one income, but choose not to.
If I were in your situation, I wouldn't even start the new job. I'd just say I already have a great job, thanks. Then explain how you've already undertaken this career when you chose the marry him and have three kids. That there is so much to learn and improve upon.
I too have a husband and three kids under 6. My husband is supportive and listens to me. But in the back of him mind he thinks, well my mom worked so can you. So I have to be firm with him about my priorities or else he gets confused.
Good luck,
Christina
Patty
2nd..you have to watch the work at home things.. Alot of it is bull..a rip off. Before you decide to do that...you need to contact your better business bureau...and find out if the company is REAL.
And if you take of other kids in your own home......then that isn't going to cost you much. You will save on gas for you car...and everything.
Hope this helps
Christy