WHEN DID KIDS GET SO MEAN????????????
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WHEN DID KIDS GET SO MEAN????????????
| Tue, 03-02-2004 - 8:41am |
WELL YESTURDAY WAS NICE OUT,SO MY SON & I PACKED UP HIS TOYS &STUFF &HEADED TO THE PARK.AFTER PLAYING FOR A WHILE SOME KIDS CAME 2 BOYS & A GIRL (BOYS AROUND 4-7 GIRL 12)WELL THEY STARTED TOSSING A BALL TO EACH OTHER,WELL DOMENIC COMES RUNNING OVER SAYING I WANNA PLAY THROW IT TO ME,THET IGNORE HIM ,SO AGAIN HE SAYS PLEASE I WANNA PLAY THROW IT TO ME PLEASE.THEY LOOKED AT HIM & YELLED NO YOU CAN NOT PLAY. I WAS SHOCKED ,AMAZED AT HOW RUDE THAT WAS.MY SON WILL BE 3 IN MAY ,ALL HE WANTED WAS TO PLAY BALL WITH THESE KIDS. WELL I SAID COME ON DOMENIC I'LL PLAY WITH YOU ,NO MOMMY I WANNA PLAY WITH THEM ,I SAID SORRY HONEY THEY DO'NT WANNA PLAY WITH YOU HE ASKED ME WHY > I FELT SO BAD FOR HIM.WELL WE STARTED PLAYING & ANOTHER LITTLE GIRL (NAMED JENNIFER )CAME OVER & WAS JUST WATCHING US DOMENIC SAID DO YOU WANNA PLAY WITH ME!WELL SHE DID SO THE 3 OF US TOSSING THE BALL TO EACH OTHER WHEN ALL OF A SUDDEN THOSE KIDS (THE ONES THAT TOLD HIM HE COULD NOT PLAY)CAME OVER WITHOUT ASKING JUST DECIDED TO JOIN OUR GAME.... WRONG... I STOPPED THE GAME & SAID LETS GO PLAY ON THE SWINGS I'LL PUSH YOU GUYS(DOMENIC & JENNIFER).I KNOW THAT WAS MEAN BUT I WAS STILL ALITTLE MAD . WHEN DID KIDS BECOME SO MEAN????????/

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Honestly, I think that you should give the older kids some slack. They were just playing with each other and I don't think that it's necessary that they have to share their game with a "baby". They are just asserting their independence. But I do think that it was okay not playing the game with all of them.
Personally, it makes me crazy at family parties when the adults are playing a game, say, volleyball, and some of the parents want all the little kids to play too. I think that it's fine to say, "No, this is the adults game" or "This is the big kids game". There can be a game later for everyone or a game for just the kids. Kids need to watch and learn sometimes.
Melissa
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I'm sorry that you disagree with me, but I think that there is a flaw in your logic. You say that if the kids don't want to play with your child, then they shouldn't play ball in the middle of a public park. Does that mean that I shouldn't have a picnic in a public park unless I bring enough to share with all of the park's attendees? That's just silly!
If those kids were mine, I would encourage them to let the little boy play for a while. I'm sure your son is very nice and friendly. But, you just cannot expect older kids to want to play with a 3 year old. They are not being MEAN (unless of course, they were actaully mean and yelling and cursing at your little one, but you did not state that in your original post), they are being kids and asserting what little independence they have. Maybe they are always made to play with a little brother or sister or cousin at home and playing in the park was their way of taking a break from entertaining.
Melissa
You know, the same thing happened to us yesterday at the park.
My son saw a boy playing ball, one he brought, and he wanted to join. He refused to let him play, but teased him with it.
If I were not a grown up, I would have popped him one for treating another child like that.
I say if you bring toys then you should share, since you know other kids will be there.
I don't know why the parents let them treat others like that and then get upset if their kid is treated the same way.
You did the right thing :)
Mel
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Dalton 12-4-03
Unfortunately your post made it sound as if it was a personal insult that your child wasn't allowed to play with the others, and that you denied them the chance to play with you later to spite them. I got the impression that it was okay for you to rebuff the other children BECAUSE they were "mean", but that goes against the "public place" theory. If that isn't how it was meant to be--I'm sorry, but that's what I "heard" from your post. I honestly don't think the others were being cruel- they do not know your child and have no obligation to spend any time with him, nor do they need your permission to say no to him. As much as we'd like everyone to yes to our children all the time it does not happen. When they tried to join you later...you did the right thing by not allowing them and you had every right to use the situation as a learning experienceor teaching experience. Something like "if you had of been willing to accept us as a part of your game , then I would ge happy to have you join us." or "I'm sorry but this is a private game and we do not wish to include others at this time." There is no better way to get your point across than to be polite and courteous when you object to others. Shelley
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