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when kids have mean playmates?
| Tue, 03-02-2004 - 10:53pm |
Hi my son is 4 and he is really a very good kid. Very empathetic and polite. However my sisters daughter also 4 is very bossy, sassy, and sometimes mean. My sister and I are very close and our kids play together very often. I know that her daughter is learning a lot of these bad habits from a little girl at her daycare. The problem we have the most is we have taught my son not to hit girls (he wrestles with his dad and is definitly all boy) but my sisters little girl will get mad about something you know tipical 4yr old squabbles and then she will literally claw the skin off my sons face. Or whatever she can do to hurt him. He doesnt fight back because we have told him not to hit girls. But I can not stand this anymore... It makes me and my husband very angry and I have tried to talk with my sister about it. She tries to correct her but it just doesnt seem to sink in....Does anyone have any advice on what to do bout this or have had a similar situation. I have no doubt that my son could defend himself...but should we tell him to ?
Or should we just recomend that he come and tell us? any advice or comments would be appreciated. Thanks
Or should we just recomend that he come and tell us? any advice or comments would be appreciated. Thanks

Maybe having them not play together might help. If they are close, then being away might get her to stop if she wants to play with him.
It's not easy to deal with, but it's even harder when it is a family member who is doing it.
I think your son's safety and well being is important, and he will only learn bad behavior from her if she continues to do it and not learn to stop.
Good luck and I hope she settles down soon.
Mel
Andrew 3-4-99
Dalton 12-4-03
I have pretty much the same messageboard up right now-I don't want my son to be a brat-.
My deal is my best friends DD. MY best friend and me have grown up together both of our families are one great big family,so she is like a sister. My problem is I have a DS who is almost 3 and her DD is 2. They've been growing up together since day one. My son is a very polite boy(always please and thank you). He used to never be violent to other kids at all. But my God-daughter bites and pushes him away as soon as he gets a foot away from him. So he gets mad and will push her back and sometimes hit her. I always punish him because I don't want to have a bully for a son. But my friend just tells her stop and that's it and her DD will continue to do it. I've repeatedly told my friend that her DD habits are not the best and that I don't want my son to have them..I kind of hint at it. I don't want to come down on her. You know how defensive mothers are. She has taught my son how to bite just recently and he's always saying "that's mine" to everything. I hate that. So obviously your not gonna get much advice but there are some of us that are going trough the same situation. Some mothers just do things TOTALLY different. But one thing I would suggest is to not stop letting them play together because how will he learn to interact with those types of children. I'm sure there is gonna be plenty of kids in school who act just like your sis's kid and my friends kid. So I guess if we just keep setting examles for them ,hopefully they might catch on.
Good luck!!!!
Sheri
Jeremiah 4-21-01
Eloura 6-2-03
Don't feel bad for standing up for your child, wheither it's to adults or other children. We are our children's avocates, we speak for them when they are unable to express themselves or their needs. It is our job, and our responsibility. Other parents should understand where you are coming from.
Angie