caught in the act, what do i do??lol

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Registered: 10-12-2003
caught in the act, what do i do??lol
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Sun, 03-07-2004 - 11:02am
i just have to ask, has anyone else been caught doing to mattress mambo by a little wide-eyed sleepy head? last night makes the THIRD time that dd 4 1/2 has caught me and my dh going at it, and i'm getting a little worried about how we're going to afford the therapy sessions! the first time she caught us we had to explain the basics of the birds and the bees in order to convince her that daddy wasn't hurting mommy, that i actually liked it, and i was ok with that, because i figured she would have to hear it sometime and at least she was hearing it from me. we explained all that, and went over the nighttime rules, that if she needs us in the night that she is to stay in her bed and call us, not come looking for us. fine, end of story right? well a couple of months later is happened again, but this time it wasn't that bad, we had the covers on and i don't think she saw anything. but then last night dh and i were getting it on, and we look up to see a little face peeking around the bookshelf watching avidly! now dh and i have been together for a loooong time, and many years and two kids later we are having to come up with some interesting ways to keep the spark alive, so dd was treated to a position i doubt you would even find in the kama sutra and some language that would make your average sailor blush beet red. even worse, based on some things she said it was rather obvious that she had been standing there watching for quite a while! and of course dh yelled at her when he saw her standing there, so that makes it even worse. he was just so surprised and horrified to see her watching, he couldn't really help it, but i think that freaked her out more than seeing mommy with her legs up over her head, lol. so now what the heck am i supposed to do?? do i explain that what she witnessed isn't "average" sex, or should i just let it go? what can i say except "i'm sorry honey, mommy and daddy are horny perverts?"

and does anyone else have this problem? what do you do about it? after this last episode we put a large bell on her doorknob, but she is such a quite little mouse and we are such loud horny pervs i don't know that that will do the trick! she sleeps in our room because her litle brother is a terrible sleeper and keeps her up all night, so dh and i are relegated to doing it in the livingroom, so the obvious solution of locking the door won't work. acck! is she going to be ok, or does catching your parents buttneckid in a compromising position traumatize kids for life? lol

Clarity

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Registered: 01-06-2004
Sun, 03-07-2004 - 4:52pm

I have been there done that. I don't really remember what we told our son, cause he was onlya little over 4 when it happened.


Letsjust say he never say us doing the tango again, we are very careful when and where it happens.
I really don't have any advice for you, but I did think it was funny how you put it...


Good luck.

Mel

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Registered: 01-09-2004
Sun, 03-07-2004 - 7:26pm

Sounds to me like you need to fix the sleeping arrangement problem, then you & DH will have a room where you can lock the door for some privacy.


There's a sleep training board here on ivillage, maybe your solution is there.


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Registered: 02-03-2004
Sun, 03-07-2004 - 11:40pm
my son is also 4 and very curious too..He has never caught us but I am always worried he will we also have a 18 mnth old daughter who sleeps with us... so we get it on in the living room too. We always put up the child gate and have a blanket handy... that way we can duck and cover when we hear the latch open. Good luck
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Registered: 10-21-2003
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 10:41am
Haven't been caught... yet.LOL My 6 yr old is in a wheelchair so she has to call for us and our 1 yr old isn't quite that mobile (or quiet...you KNOW when he's coming he growls like he's driving a semi!). I would say that since she has already had the talk (wink wink) a reminder that she must stay in her room should be all she needs. She's probably looking for details to tell her friends about (LOL)...really unless you put yourself in a locked room there will always be the chance of being caught. As long as you are not embarassed (and remind hubby to keep his surprise to himself.) and are there to answer any questions then she should be OK. AFter that maybe a baby monitor in her room would give you some more warning, or try the bathroom if it has a lock.LOL
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Registered: 02-25-2004
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 2:17pm
No advice, just wanted to thank you for giving me such a good laugh. Good luck to you!
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Registered: 11-05-2003
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 6:26pm
OMG! LOL! I couldn't help but laugh. Maybe you could lock yourself in the bathroom..LOL! I also agree.. to put a monitor in the bedroom so you will hear her when she gets up... Oh that may not work if ya'll are that loud..LOL! Maybe you can get one of those hook lock thingys and lock her bedroom door from the outside.... That way she can't get out..unless ya'll let her out. My mother use to use a trick....she would say dad needed his back washed..when he took a shower or bath....but I was TOO smart and knew what was happening....my aunt tried that too...LOL! They couldn't out smart me....and it will be hard to out smart her..because kids are smarter than we think. I mean I knew what sex was before I was in school......and I think that alot of kids do. I think they figure it out for themself. I don't think I would explain what was happening......only if she asks.... and I wouldn't tell her it isn't a normal position...LOL...because she doesn't need to know that...and if ya tell her that..ya are going to get into more details than ya probably want too. Oh and be prepared for her to tell people..LOL! Don't be surprised if grandma...mentions it to you...LOL! And she is going to tell her friends. And also don't be surprised if you walk in on her and a friend playing house.......LOL! Because kids to act stuff like that out..not to the extent of sex..but they DO pretend! My mom actually got a call from one of my friends mothers..telling her what I was telling my friend..LOL! And that was when my mother realized I was smarter than she thought..hahahaa!

Anyway, I would try to fix better sleeping arrangments. Figure out a way to get her to sleep by herself....even if she has to sleep on the couch. Or buy a roll away bed....and fix it pretty and tell her thats the big girls bed. Because I don't think it will scar her for life.....but she will NEVER forget it...LOL!

Christy

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Registered: 01-10-2004
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 10:42pm
LOCK YOUR DOOR!!! VERY SIMPLE!
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Registered: 01-10-2004
Tue, 03-09-2004 - 11:08am
Hey!Just wanted to let you know that my Hubby came in and read your post,after I went to take care of the baby.He posted under my name and said,Lock your door.I came back in the room and saw what he had done and told him he hadn't read it all,because you had said you were in the livingroom and couldn't just lock your door!Oh well,sorry about that!Thanks for posting that though.It was soooo funny!And I agree with the other ladies that it won't do any harm to your DD,seeing that.She will probably tell her friends,though!LOL!
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Registered: 10-12-2003
Wed, 03-10-2004 - 11:42am
lol, i wondered about that, it seemed uncharacteristically short coming from you! lol. wish it was that simple, but the kid doesn't seem to have any lasting scars, yet, so i'm gonna try to let it blow over. uggh, isn't life after kids GREAT?? lol

clarity

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Registered: 10-12-2003
Wed, 03-10-2004 - 11:45am
>>>Maybe you could lock yourself in the bathroom..

but the sink is sooo hard and lumpy, don't you think that would really kill the mood? roflmao!

the moniter idea is a great one, i think we're gonna have to try that. kinda dumb to buy one AFTER your babies are grown, but we HAVE to do something or the kid's gonna start teaching her peers things that belong in porno no the playground, lol.

thanks for all the thoughts

clarity