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ever feel like not doing enough for baby
| Sun, 03-07-2004 - 10:56pm |
some days especially after reading all sorts of first from others on other boards.. i feel like i am not doing enough for my ds .. like what and i missing..what am i not doing.. ds learned to roll finally last week and can sit on his own and baby talks.. but there are so many things he's just not interested in... he was from the start a high needs baby!! and his attention spam is about a milli second or less.. i think we have bought every toy in the store to find things that amuse him and the only thing was the JUMPEROO> YIPPIE best thing ever made but

Another idea that I have it to buy the Gymboree Baby Play book. I've gotten some great age appropriate game ideas from there. Right now, I'm trying to teach dd to crawl and there are some activites for that...promoting stretching, etc.
Bottom line, don't feel bad if you're not entertaining your ds every moment. It's totally okay for him to play on his own. Especially right now while you're scrabbling trying to move...don't worry as long as ds seems happy and content. Babies love the car...very soothing. You might want to think about getting one of those thingies that attaches to the back of the seat of the car to give him something to look at/play with if you're going to be on the road a lot. Also, music CDs and books on tape are a hit.
I hope this helps!
Laura
I was able to pick up a 4 dvd set at BJ's for about $50 - it has Baby Newton, Shakespere, Einstein and Bach.
Michelle
TANYA
MOMMY TO MAKENNA 3-10-03
The first 3 or 4 months made me wonder if I really enjoy spending time with my son and after some thinking and talking to mom friends, I realized that even though I long for more uninterrupted reading time or just some alone time without guilt, I do enjoy trying to entertain Matthew, just not constantly. My friends made me realize that it's OK to need some downtime myself and that it's normal to not want to entertain the baby ALL the time. As long as we interract with our child for a good part of the day as well as the basics (feeding, diaper changes...), our job is done. Well, not done, but you know what I mean. Also, you can make faces & talk to baby while doing housework, too.
Now, since he can finally sit up, it has opened up a huge time frame for me to either get other stuff done or even watch a TV show in the background while he's sitting, facing me, playing with toys and watching me. He loves his Baby Bach video, too. There is no way to keep children from TV so I have decided not to feel guilty about TV.
I know this was long, but I think you are doing fine as long as you spend some time face to face with baby. That lessens guilt for me. I try to read to Matthew and he turns pages and eats the book, too. But I try to continue reading because anytime he hears my voice helps him learn. So keep reading. Since your baby gets bored easily, have your baby with you playing w/toys in whatever room you need to get your own stuff done in. Then in the middle of your own work, switch baby to tummy/crawl time. Then switch again to sitting in another room maybe with PBS on. If you don't have one, consider a play gym like the Leap Start Learning Gym. Your baby can lie down & observe, then can sit up & watch. Make a list of things you can do quickly to alleviate boredom and then it will sink into your mind and it will become automatic as you go through your day - you won't have to stop and think, "What should I have baby do now?" When my son gets bored and I'm really busy with a lot of housework, I automatically know to put him in front of his Baby Bach video. He's happy for a 1/2 hour. Hopefully this long post will help!
thanks for some of the suggestions!! i appreciate it.. i guess i shouldn't feel so bad about letting him watch tv sometimes.. he loves noggin, especially oobi and seasame too!! my mom used tv as a babysitter for my little brother and that always drove me nuts. but this week so much needs to get done that i guess i have no choice.. but right now he is starting to get sick too so that makes me feel even worse.. he had rsv right after thanksgiving and he is starting to show all the signs again. so yesterday was major attention.. he wasn't feeling good and i got squat done..lol..
he did like the tupperware with toys in it!! as long as he doesn't fall over face first again.. heeh ee.. he wants it.. grabs at is.pushes it too far away and then nose dives after it :)