How should I handle this?
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| Tue, 03-09-2004 - 10:04am |
What I've been saying to people who say "Oh well that's a horrible day to be born" or something to that effect is "Now that day reminds me to also celebrate the people who are still living." I don't know if this is a good response or not actually. It hurts me so much that when he goes to school he'll probably have to endure moments of silence on his Birthday. I remember thinking about this as my labor progressed through the moments of silence. He was born at 1:43 pm.
My family doesn't seem to understand either. They keep sending me Sept 11th rememberance emails. Why they think they need to remind me of all people about this day is beyond me. It just makes me sad. My husband keeps saying well people were born on D-Day and they did ok. My response to that was......our oldest son was born on the day the Titanic sank but how many people are alive to remember it. This is a fresh tragedy in people's minds.
Any advise you can give would be wonderful. I'm just trying to stick up for him and not offend anyone I guess.
Jen
Mom to Sean 4-14-01 and Eric 9-11-03

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I feel for your son.
I sometimes wish people would get on with their lives and be hapy that they are still here and not dwell on the bad things.
Many people die each day in the war going on right now and no one whines about that. It is sad that anyone must die for causes like these.
I hope that your son will be okay with it, and I don't think that his peers will be the ones to remind him of it during his birthday. It will be the adults.
I don't really have much advice, but thought I would give my 2 cents on it.
Mel
Andrew 3-4-99
Dalton 12-4-03
Sept 11 is my brother's birthday. I remember thinking of him during 'that' day.
I think the previous poster was correct in that it won't be HIS peers that will connect the dates, it will be the adults. And as adults you can start by correcting your family members now.
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Rhonda
I understand that we need to remember the people who died but when someone visibly cringes when they hear your child's birthday it breaks your heart. I think that we need to honor those who died by taking care of the ones who are still here.
Jen
Mom to Sean 4-14-01 and Eric 9-11-03
PLEASE DON'T TAKE THIS THE WRONG WAY,, but I think it shouldn't make a diffrence either way, what I mean is,, Sept. 11th of that horrible year was a bad day, but life does go on and we should be able to remeber both. On sept. 11th it was a horribnle day for all of those people that lost their lives,, for all of the people it affected closely by losing a loved one in that building, but by you having a baby on the same date years later means that Life does go on,, and your baby being born is just that,, ''LIFE''!
I think both should still be talked about, and I don;t nessicarly think it's a bad thing to have that birthday. A boy in my daycare was born that day of this past year and when he was born I honestly didn't think oh that poor baby,, I thought how wonderful that life still goes on, and on. GL to you,, I hope you can get past this.
Jen
Mom to Sean 4-14-01 and Eric 9-11-03
Jen
Mom to Sean 4-14-01 and Eric 9-11-03
Good luck
Lesley
Jen
Mom to Sean 4-14-01 and Eric 9-11-03
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