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How did you know you wanted
| Tue, 03-09-2004 - 7:59pm |
another child? DS turned two last week and already people are starting in on 'when are you going to have another?". The thing is I have NO desire for another especially right now. A group of mommies I know got together a few weeks ago and it was literally- those with babies sleeping all night already have another or are planning one while those with little ones up half the night are like- no way! Iwas just wondering for those who have more than one- did you feel an intense desire for the second one the same as the first? I am TOTALLY not feeling a thing yet. I LOVE my DS but feel like I am just getting some time for myself. Most people say three years apart is a great way to go but that would mean getting PG pretty soon. And you can't even tell someone you're not sure if you want another one! Anyway, enough with the rambling, just wondering how you would know you are ready for another baby!
Jill
Jill

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Good Luck
Christy
Melissa
Beth,Brianna (12/30/2001), and Jr (edd 10/28/04)
I agree witht he first response to your post.
Do not have more children because people think you should. You will be the one having the child and taking care of it.
If you are not ready, then don't feel bad. Some people just have one child, and some have 5....
I have a 5 year old and a 13 week old. When I had my first son, I had no desire to have more.
I got my time a lone for me when he got older and fufilled a lot of what I wanted to do, that is when I decided to have one more. But it might 10 years or less or more for you.... or maybe even never.
Just let your heart tell you when, and not other people.
Mel
Andrew 3-4-99
Dalton 12-4-03
I have a DS who is almost 3 and a DD who is 9 months. I did not want kids period until I had turned 25. I got pregnant with son when I was 20. I was really scared when I found out,but then I was very excited. Now when I found out I was pregnant with DD My son was only like 15 months(?). I did not want another child so soon. I said once he was 3 I would try again. Well it didn't work that way. Yes for me being pregnant the second time was totally different. I wanted my son 100% and my DD the whole time I was very wishy washy. I know that sounds horrible but it's true. But now that's she here I couldn't imagine life without her,she's my lil' Pretty. So if it happens it's ok. And if you think to wait would be the best time then it probably is. Because having another is 100 times the work then the first. But of course it's worth it. And remember God will give a baby whether you want one or not. Good luck.
Sheri
Jeremiah 4-21-01
Eloura 6-2-03
Don't have another baby because people think you should.
Dona
Mommy to CJ {03.21.03}& Chantel {08.10.95} Step~Mom to Carrington {08.12.92}
I knew that if I was going to have any kids at all, then I had to have 2 at least. My brother and I are really close and I just didn't feel right about the only child idea.
But we did get pregnant ALOT sooner than expected!
DD is going to be 1 next week and new baby is due at the end of July. So, I'll have 2 in diapers, 2 in cribs...but I figure, I'm 30 and it will be all over with soon. I had a hard time picturing going through it all over again in a few more years anyway.
I agree with everyone else, though. You will truly know if you are ready.
Melissa
I guess everyone is different and I will know when and if I want another. I know if I got PG I would adjust and do just fine but I am not planning to have a baby because of outside pressure or to provide DS with a playmate. My younger brother and I are 4 and a half years apart. My personality and DS are very much the same. He is very pleasent but very active so I guess that is why my Mom waited between her kids. My friend has a 2 year old and eight months old and said she wanted it that way to get it done with but that is not the way I feel so everyone has their own feelings. I just wondered if I would feel the same desire when the time is right. I guess I will wait and see if it comes! Thanks again for all your honest replies!
Jill
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