nanny needs advice on 16 mo. old

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Registered: 03-15-2004
nanny needs advice on 16 mo. old
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Tue, 03-16-2004 - 2:18am


I don't have children of my own, and have never had to be a "mother" until i took this nanny job. I have much experience with children and feel i am a very good teacher to them. But,I am always second guessing myself when it comes to punishment. I pretty much have it down with the two boys becuase they understand what i'm saying/doing. BUT, there is a little 16 mo. girl. I don't know what to do! She has picked up this screaming habit and it's getting worse. She hits my face sometimes, plays with the lightsockets, goes to the dwarer with powdered sugar... constently!!!! i say to her, " no, no. you can not play with this, or this is dangerous, or do not scream." but she continues ...... i don't want to hit here hand for hitting my face! that just doesn't make sense.

What kinds of consequences are good for children of this age?? How do you teach them? just let them get the natural consequences?? (lightsockets) but what about the loud screaming? and the sugar I will have to clean up later??
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Registered: 03-30-2003
Tue, 03-16-2004 - 6:54am
Not to sound nasty, but this is not the place to ask. You need to ask the mother and/or father what their preferred method of discipline is.

Even though you are the "mommy" for most of the time, you are not the mom. All decisions on how you deal with the kids needs to be taken through the parents.

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Registered: 02-20-2004
Tue, 03-16-2004 - 7:18am
I agree with the other poster, but maybe you can try this. I have a 14 mo. old and they understand more than you think. They act like they don't when they think they can get away with it.

When my son hits my face, I grab his hand (not hard, just enough to keep him from hitting me or doing whatever it is I don't want him to do) and I tell him he cannot hit/whatever he is doing and if he continues he will go to bed. If he continues I carry him to bed explaining why I am putting him there. I only make him stay in there for 5 min. if he doesn't fall asleep.

Ask the parents for permission first.

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Registered: 01-06-2004
Tue, 03-16-2004 - 2:40pm

I also agree with the rest of the posts. It is the parents choice on what you should do.


I would never discipline a child that is not mine without knowing what is allowed. Even then I find it hard, but you are their nanny, so that is diffrent.

Mel


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