Lisa (lisacollette)
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Lisa (lisacollette)
| Fri, 03-26-2004 - 5:07pm |
I have been thru this myself. was married to a man that sounds just like your H. never helped. expected me to do everything. plus i had to hold a p/t job or i was called lazy! that was with raising 2 kids at home too. so the babies were 2 and 5 when he finally left. he made the decision to go and i tell ya it was the best thing that has happened to me. i stayed single for about a year and a half after the divorce was final. i got remarried and had 2 more kids. i now have 4 and a wonderful husband who helps! it's out there. lots of guys are good. but i tend to find the bad apples, or something. so now i'm blessed. so it does get easier eventually, but you have to go thru it all first. sucks. now my ex is remarried too. i still don't get along with him. i don't know if that bitterness will ever go away. but i say every month it gets easier. it's been almost 5 years since my divorce. i feel a lot better. hugs 2 u. email me if you ever want to talk. oh, and by the way, my ex told me the same thing 'you won't get the kids'. but let's get real, he didn't want them. that's why he left. he hated responsibility. so i got them. he has visitation (standard every other weekend, etc). nikimcn@hotmail.com

Thanks for the support. I'm not sure what I'm going to do at this point. I've got some applications out for positions and I hope to hear something soon. I'm going to talk with hubby tonight and see if he'd be willing to get a different job - one that doesn't keep him away all the time. It's worth a try.
I'll email you and let you know what happens.
Have a great weekend!
Lisa