4 or more kids??
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4 or more kids??
| Sun, 03-28-2004 - 8:04pm |
just wondering how your lives have changed since the large family. i tell ya, i love having lots of kids and hubby. but i feel so disconnected from the mainstream world most of the time. from looks in the stores to comments, even on the net of 'wow, you have a lot of kids', or 'boy, i can't even imagine, i have 2 and i'm stressed'. comments that don't make me feel better, etc. i've lost friends over this. many of them. we just see things differently i guess. how have you been treated over this? sometimes i feel like i'm doing wrong, or something. like i'm alien to the norm. nicole

How old are your kids? Do you have anyone that can watch them for you some? Or at least half of them? lol It helps to get out. I take my older boys skating some on the week ends. They skate and I visit with the other parents. Its nice! Or my girls and I will go shopping. I don't have anyone that will watch the kids very much so most of the time I do these things while hubby has the other kiddos!
Do you have a cousin, sister or close friend that you can go out to lunch with? I got with my Mom, younger sis, Aunt and cousin and we go out to eat one week end. We try to do this every 2 months. We get time away from the kids and get to catch up on whats going on with each other. I know how you are feeling right now because I was just there. After my last baby was born we stayed here at home most of the time. He had colic and was just an overall fussy baby! I was too tired to do anything and too stressed not to. I needed to get out! The baby is now 10 months old and walking and its getting easier.
Hang in there! It will get better!
Oh, just have to ask. Do you ever get the comments "don't you know what causes them" or "you guys need to get a TV"? UGH!!!!!! I even had someone , while I was with my Dad, ask him if he didnt explain the birds and bees to me. I turned sooooooo red! I wanted to crawl under something and hide!!! That was the worst!
Take care!
Holli
I had someone ask me which twin was the evil one, this was when they were about 6 months old and I told the person I was glad that they didn't understand yet because she was a horrible person to ask such a thing about babies. I was also asked if the twins were conceived on the same night, and I said "Yes, this twin was session 1 and this twin was session 5 !!" Her jaw was to the ground, and I have a funny story to tell and hopefully she won't bother the next mom of twins with such an insane comment !!
Just an idea, if your kids have friends then let them each have a friend over and then when you recipocate and they take you kids try to corridinate the same timing ... this seems to be working now that mine are in school and the twins have their own friends ...
Some people are idiots and they say things without even thinking that the kids could be hurt, if you have a comment back, (doesn't have to be nasty like some of mine, lol) but it also teaches your kids that you won't put up with certain comments ...
heidi
ds(s) 9,5,2, and dd 7
and waiting for more