You poor poor woman. I feel for you. My husband NEVER goes to the store with me and he won't watch the kids while I do it either, because he has things that he needs to do too. If I send him to the store, he calls 4-5 times to make sure he gets the right thing, and it takes twice as long for him, because he has to stop at 15 other places without telling me before he comes home. So you are not alone in this subject. LOL
I sooooooo feel for you!! That is exactly where my DH hangs out also... IF he happens to go with me which is very rare. Then he has the nerve to ask what was taking me so long.
My dh only gets paid once a month so I make one big trip to the grocery store with a few smaller trips in between. I am so tired of taking my kids to the grocery store with no help when I know I will probably be a couple of hours. My son loves to whine and scream all the way through the store and if he's not doing that he is yelling "I want to go home" over and over and over again.
So just today I have decided to call the neighbor to babysit. She is 14 years old and loves to play with the kids and the kids love her. She has watched the kids twice so far. The best part is she only charges $3.00 an hour. I think it is definitely worth it to me to pay her about $6.00 to keep my kids at home and happily playing while I go grocery shopping. She was recommended to me by another neighbor (friend) of mine that sometimes even just takes her places with them just to help with the kids. (the park, dinner, vacation, the pool..ect.) I had never thought of that, but it seems like a good way to keep everyone happy.
Traci, I truly had a good laugh at that post! Girlfriend, you are NOT alone in that frustration! I rarely, if ever, go to the store alone. If I'm lucky, I only have two kids with me, but when I take all six....well needless to say I'm extremely cranky when the trip is over. Even when the DH is home, he expects me to take at least one of the kids, mostly the baby, because god forbid I leave DS at home with his father (I have to take my cell with me, just in case I have to cut my trip short, which has happened). And sending DH to the store for what I want is not an option. He's notorious for spending whatever he wants on whatever item he fancies, and is not worried about purchasing items on sale. When I actually manage to go to the store completely alone....he seems to set a time limit for my trip. He'll call and ask me how long I'll be, why it's taking so long, etc. If I don't want to be bugged, I have to "forget" my cell phone, so that I won't have to rush home if the baby begins to cry....DH is adamant that DS "hates" him....daddy just needs to spend more quality time with DS so DS doesn't cry the moment momma walks out the door for a little sanity/grocery time. Anyway, I hear ya in your rant! I think a lot of us have the same problem, lol.
whew! You had a tough time for sure, you are not alone, my dh is not as bad, but he can't seem to multi task when it comes to the household, yet when I'm askign for a little help, he looks at me like I've grown another head. Go figure. I, however, give you kudos, for standing up for yourself and heading to the van and letting him "deal" with it all. Good for you!
LOL.... You are too funny. I love the farking you kept putting. I am so sorry though that DH is worthless when going shopping. I wish I could give you some advice how to kick him in the rear and get him to help. My husband comes with me and tends to the kids while we shop together. I guess I am spoiled. He does not help any other way while shopping, but it is a blessing just to get that much help. I did like your post though and hope that the humor I found in it is not rude. You did lighten my day with it. Good luck next time you go......
lol...of course I don't think it is rude! I use to have quite a potty mouth and made up tons of words because I was afraid of slipping in front of the kids. Hasn't happened yet but I 'll bet when dh ticks me off and kids are asleep I probably sound like yosemite same! lol
You know this is the only place my dh does not help! He even washes the dishes, and makes me a bath with candles and bubbles. In public places though he turns into this grunting caveman! lol
You should consider becoming a writer!! That was excellent!! I feel for you!! Men are so stupid when it comes to simple little things!! I am lucky in the fact that the father of my baby and I both hate grocery stores, and so he runs around with a basket, while dd and I push around the cart (which is frustrating enough trying to manouver when everyone else in the store wants to stop in the middle of the isle and chat, or stare at 5 different brands of soup that only have a 1 cent difference in cost)!!
But I know how you feel!! Like when he comes home after work and is tired, and wants to lie on the couch and watch television while I do the dishes, sweep and mop the floor, bath the baby, lotion the baby, diaper the baby, make bottles for the baby, feed the baby a snack, rock the baby, and put the baby to bed!! That's not mentioning all the little things that go wrong in the mean time, while he is laying on the couch with his eyes closed, acting annoyed that we are not quiet, because he is trying to nap!! He will even lay there while I am busy and let the phone ring, until I get up to answer it!! It drives me nutts. It's nice to know that I'm not the only one who has a signifigant (LOL) other who is thoughtless sometimes!! Oh well, I guess it is lucky that we are not our mothers!!
I don't remember my father being anywhere near a grocery store with us, and if he was, he was yelling and screaming, and throwing expensive stuff in the cart (like my poor mother had a 6th kid!!). Plus, my mother still makes his lunch, and his supper, and just recently stopped getting up to have his breakfast ready before he goes to work. I finally told her that he can easily poor himself a bowl of cereal, or a couple pieces of toast!! But I also remember my father being very caring, and playing games with us kids, and taking us out of the house once in a while, while mom stayed home and did whatever she wanted to do. And trust me she was always a happier woman when we got back!! So I guess we just need to realise that although it ticks us off, we will get through it, and they will learn an awful lot in the mean time. And then, by the time we are grandparents, he will be the one who plays with, and diapers, and watches the grandkids, because those are a few of the things that he will feel that he missed out on the first time (at least my dad feels that way, my boyfriend changes his share of diapers!)!!
I sooooooo feel for you!! That is exactly where my DH hangs out also... IF he happens to go with me which is very rare. Then he has the nerve to ask what was taking me so long.
My dh only gets paid once a month so I make one big trip to the grocery store with a few smaller trips in between. I am so tired of taking my kids to the grocery store with no help when I know I will probably be a couple of hours. My son loves to whine and scream all the way through the store and if he's not doing that he is yelling "I want to go home" over and over and over again.
So just today I have decided to call the neighbor to babysit. She is 14 years old and loves to play with the kids and the kids love her. She has watched the kids twice so far. The best part is she only charges $3.00 an hour. I think it is definitely worth it to me to pay her about $6.00 to keep my kids at home and happily playing while I go grocery shopping. She was recommended to me by another neighbor (friend) of mine that sometimes even just takes her places with them just to help with the kids. (the park, dinner, vacation, the pool..ect.) I had never thought of that, but it seems like a good way to keep everyone happy.
I wish I could share her with you..LOL!
Beth
Carson - SAHM to six
Shelby
SAHM to Haylei
whew! You had a tough time for sure, you are not alone, my dh is not as bad, but he can't seem to multi task when it comes to the household, yet when I'm askign for a little help, he looks at me like I've grown another head. Go figure. I, however, give you kudos, for standing up for yourself and heading to the van and letting him "deal" with it all. Good for you!
Rechelle
I am so sorry though that DH is worthless when going shopping. I wish I could give you some advice how to kick him in the rear and get him to help.
My husband comes with me and tends to the kids while we shop together. I guess I am spoiled. He does not help any other way while shopping, but it is a blessing just to get that much help.
I did like your post though and hope that the humor I found in it is not rude. You did lighten my day with it.
Good luck next time you go......
lol...of course I don't think it is rude! I use to have quite a potty mouth and made up tons of words because I was afraid of slipping in front of the kids. Hasn't happened yet but I 'll bet when dh ticks me off and kids are asleep I probably sound like yosemite same! lol
You know this is the only place my dh does not help! He even washes the dishes, and makes me a bath with candles and bubbles. In public places though he turns into this grunting caveman! lol
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But I know how you feel!! Like when he comes home after work and is tired, and wants to lie on the couch and watch television while I do the dishes, sweep and mop the floor, bath the baby, lotion the baby, diaper the baby, make bottles for the baby, feed the baby a snack, rock the baby, and put the baby to bed!! That's not mentioning all the little things that go wrong in the mean time, while he is laying on the couch with his eyes closed, acting annoyed that we are not quiet, because he is trying to nap!! He will even lay there while I am busy and let the phone ring, until I get up to answer it!! It drives me nutts. It's nice to know that I'm not the only one who has a signifigant (LOL) other who is thoughtless sometimes!! Oh well, I guess it is lucky that we are not our mothers!!
I don't remember my father being anywhere near a grocery store with us, and if he was, he was yelling and screaming, and throwing expensive stuff in the cart (like my poor mother had a 6th kid!!). Plus, my mother still makes his lunch, and his supper, and just recently stopped getting up to have his breakfast ready before he goes to work. I finally told her that he can easily poor himself a bowl of cereal, or a couple pieces of toast!! But I also remember my father being very caring, and playing games with us kids, and taking us out of the house once in a while, while mom stayed home and did whatever she wanted to do. And trust me she was always a happier woman when we got back!! So I guess we just need to realise that although it ticks us off, we will get through it, and they will learn an awful lot in the mean time. And then, by the time we are grandparents, he will be the one who plays with, and diapers, and watches the grandkids, because those are a few of the things that he will feel that he missed out on the first time (at least my dad feels that way, my boyfriend changes his share of diapers!)!!
Good luck!!
HALIGR