I wish this weekend didnt happen.

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I wish this weekend didnt happen.
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Mon, 05-16-2005 - 1:45am

A few days ago, during chat, I was gone for awhile, a girl friend called to say that another friend of ours was killed in a car accident. Her funeral was this past Friday. I was going to go, (dh took the day off work and everything) then, Friday morning, the same friend called with more "bad news" that another one of our friends dh, had died on Thursday late night. I am much closer to the one that lost her dh, She is mid 50"s, but a very cool lady. I loved her dh. They were at our wedding, and Belle's Baptism, and her 1st b-day. I went to her dd wedding ect.

Anyway, this weekend sucked. I am cried out. I want to call my friend who lost her dh tommorrow (Monday) but my dh thinks I will be intruding. Do you think that???? If I were to be in her shoes (God forbid, knock on wood...) I would like some calls, but maybe he's right, and there can be too many calls. I dont know.

What would you do?

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Mon, 05-16-2005 - 6:38am

First of all, Lesley, I am so sorry to hear of both tragic losses. My thoughts and prayers are with you and the mourning families. I think you should call your friend who lost her dh. It sounds like you are close enough, that she would appreciate hearing from you. If she doesn't want to take calls, I would think she would have someone else answering the phone, or letting her machine get it. If that is the case, just leave a message so she knows you are thinking of her. I'm sure it would mean alot. Once again, I'm sorry about your losses. Please know I'm thinking of you.

Many hugs,
Wendy

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Mon, 05-16-2005 - 8:26am
How sad. I am sorry that your friend passed away and now anothers friends dh.
I wish you strength and a hug.
I do think it would be okay to call your friend. She might need to talk to someone and I am sure she would appreciate you thinking of her.
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Mon, 05-16-2005 - 8:57am
oh wow, what a horrible weekend for you. (((HUGS))) I would call your friend, see if you can bring a meal or something.

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Mon, 05-16-2005 - 10:02am
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Mon, 05-16-2005 - 11:27am

I am soooo so sorry Lesley. What a horrible time!


I personally would call your friend. Maybe say something like "I can't imagine what you are going through but I am hear to talk if you need to". If she is having to many calls and feeling intruded upon this gives her a polite out from you...but If you are the one she chooses to confide in this is her opening...kwim?


I am very sorry for her loss and yours as well. I am sure this has been rough on you. Seriously, when you feel up to it

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Mon, 05-16-2005 - 5:08pm

sorry I'm just now seeing this Lesley... I guess this was the funeral you were referring to in chat.


I think she would appreciate a call from you... it's always nice to know someone cares, and she may be feeling lonely right now.


I'm so sorry all of this is happening!


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Tue, 05-17-2005 - 6:39am
Lesley,
I'm very sorry about both of your losses. I think it would be nice of you to call your friend, let her know you're thinking of her.

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Tue, 05-17-2005 - 9:32am

Lesley, I am so sorry I am late on this post. I am sorry for your losses. I would definitely call your friend. If she is not wanting calls she will probably have the machine on, so that way you can leave a message at least. (((((HUGS)))))

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Tue, 05-17-2005 - 11:05am

Oh my gosh - it is so horrible when we loose people we were/are close with. But two in one weekend. Hugs and hugs and hugs to you. I think the more support the better. It is always nice to hear how much people care and it is actually quite comforting. I lost my Grandmother yesterday last year - and I think about her more now then I did back then. The more time goes by the harder it is, but the support of friends and family was very comforting at the time.

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