GRIPE!!

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 6:16pm

Here it is after 6 PM. My husband just called and got hung up at work, and is now stuck in expressway Labor Day Weekend rush hour traffic and still a good half hour away. Bumper-to-bumper. I thawed flounder for dinner, because he said he'd make breaded flounder. I have no idea how to make it. We are not going to eat until late late late and the kids are whiney, tired and hungry. This happens so often.

I asked him what the heck to do with this flounder, and he said "Don't worry, I'll be there to cook it." He told me to give the kids apple pieces. Matthew was horrified. He wants a Happy Meal, LOL! Justin wants mac'n'cheese. I want someone to cook this flounder. I want my husband FOR ONCE IN HIS LIFE to get home at a decent hour and have regular work hours like the rest of the world!!

OK. I'm done griping. No need to respond. I feel much better :)

Thanks for listening again! Are you sick of my girly-whine yet? Maybe I shouldn't ask that. . .

Sofia




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In reply to: surfnsand
Fri, 09-01-2006 - 8:54pm

Sofia, the more you talk about your DH's career, the more I see the parallels to my DH's career.

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In reply to: surfnsand
Fri, 09-01-2006 - 9:50pm
(((((((((((hugs)))))))))))

Hope that flouder got cooked.
Maybe you can hire a chef for the home

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In reply to: surfnsand
Sat, 09-02-2006 - 9:05am
Uuuuuhhg! Meal time is my LEAST favorite time of the day. I make all the meals (unless we're grilling) and there's no way to satisfy everyone. They all like different things, Nikki loves macnchz, Ian wants nuggets, Jenny wants fried chicken. I quit making 3 different meals though, they'll eat what I make or be hungry. The first thing I'd do if I hit the lottery is hire a chef!!!

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In reply to: surfnsand
Sat, 09-02-2006 - 9:35am

Sofia, I can sympathize with you. While my dh doesn't have quite the same demands in his job as yours does, I'm often left alone with the girls. Especially on Saturdays. Like today, for example has been goofed up. Most of the time, if I make plans for a Saturday, I pretty much count on the fact that he will be working. Often, he doesn't know until the very last minute. It is frustrating. TOday we are supposed to go to his cousin's house, which is an hour away, to celebrate Molly's and her dd's birthdays (they are only 2 days apart). He will not be home until ~3. This means, we won't get there until at least 4:30, by the time he showers, etc. Many times I get a call in the middle of the day telling me that he has to work late. SInce he is an electrician, many times, the things they need to work on, affect people in the workplace, and can't be shut down until they go home. So, he will leave in the morning at 5 a.m. and not get home until after the girls go to bed. I keep reminding myself that all the extra hours he puts in, sure helps, and he makes enough money, even without the overtime pay, to allow me to stay home with our girls. However, I do realize that is little consolation when we are at home with the kids, missing their dad, wanting dinner (he's on the way!! I know all about that!), etc. Very frustrating. Hugs, hugs, hugs, Sofia. I really do understand.

Wendy

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Sun, 09-03-2006 - 3:11pm

Aww, you're so sweet Wendy (and all of you--thanks!!). I'm glad to know I'm not alone. What you describe is exactly the story of my life with Michael's career.

You know, I get mad at myself, because I think I rely too much on him emotionally/physically, and while he likes that and plays it up, it means I'm never that happy until he gets home from work. Not a good way to be. My frustration is probably mostly my fault. I shouldn't complain. He has a great career and makes very good money. I just wish I didn't sometimes feel out of sorts on some level when he's at work. I don't think he helps that feeling, either, since he calls me and emails me all the time from work, and asks me to come have lunch with him just about every day, and tells me stuff like: "I feel unplugged without you." While it's loving and romantic, it also doesn't build that separation and autonomy that I need when he's gone so much of the time :(

I think I need to have a good long talk with him about all this. . . Now how to do that without making him feel bad or hurting his feelings??

Sofia




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