advise for a future stay at home...

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Registered: 12-28-2005
advise for a future stay at home...
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Sat, 09-02-2006 - 1:19am

DAD....I am a mom to a 9 weeks old, and we want someone to be available to baby all the time. We have my mom taking care of baby, but it is rather difficult. The drive to my mom's house takes 45 minutes and the drive home can we well over an hour comute. PLus, both me and my husband have demading jobs. We are both so tired and stressed out becasue we are both working.
We will not put baby in day care.

My husband and I have decided that he will be the one to stay home full time while I work. I have a career, and my husband wants to retire. (He will probably start an at home business)

When you decided to be a SAHM, how did you go about it. Did you start a financial plan? We are just unsure how to make the transition from 2 incomes to only 1. (although I do currently make more then my husband with a huge jump in my salary next year.)

I know this is quite unusual, but my husband was a single dad for almost 2 years after he divorced his x wife. (She now has them full time because the kids are older and wanted to try living with their mom. There is a good chance they will be back with us with the year.) He wonderful, and really wants to be a stay at home dad.

I was just hoping for some advise on how some of you can stay at home.

thank you

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Registered: 04-16-2004
Sat, 09-02-2006 - 8:35am

I think that is fantastic and I commend your husband for wanting to do this. I think the only thing we did was just cut back on the NONfree fun stuff. We used to go to the movies and out to eat A LOT!! But, we decided that it would be better to just do Pay per view or rent movies and then we pack picnics to take to the park. As for food, we had a bigger garden with all the vegies because I was at home instead of at work all day. Anyway, that is what I can think of for now. I know you guys won't regret the decision. It is really so much easier for everyone and the house stays picked up instead of a midnight run through before bed. I am sure some others can give more advice, but that is the gist of what we did.

Sarah

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Sat, 09-02-2006 - 4:27pm
First off, welcome to the board.....
Congrats to your husband for wanting to stay home with your child. Its a big step for anyone and I am sure even bigger for a man.
I say that you should sit down and eliminate what you dont need. Like extra phone lines, eating out, satalite channels and so on. Some things might need to go bye for you to make it on one income.
I like to shop ebya for the kids, things we need for the home and so on, helps a bunch.
I also do SAMS club for diapers, wipes, formula and sometimes household cleaning items I know I will use a lot of.
Have him join a group for your area, I am sure the moms will not mind one bit having him there. He might also try starting a dads group for your area, never know how many there can be.
Good luck and have fun :) Also, he is more then welcome to join here since there is not a sahd site on IVillage that I know of......

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