need to get 17-mnth-old out of bed
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need to get 17-mnth-old out of bed
| Sat, 01-27-2007 - 9:56am |
Alright here's the deal, I am a stay-at-home mom with a beautiful one-year-old daughter. She has always been the perfect child! And I promise you it's not just because she's mine. Anyway my cousin has a 17-month-old, Hunter, who will not even lay down in a crib. As soon as you put him in it he starts to scream. Now I have never had to deal with this, but I told her that she just needs to put him in there and walk out the room. I know its hard to listen to your own kid cry, but in the long run its better for him, right? I don't know if she just doesn't have the patience or if he really does make himself sick but she's really tried over the past 2 weeks to do as I suggested and she just can't stick with it. I plan on going over there one day to help coach her through putting him down for a nap. Does anyone have any suggestions? PLEASE!!

When I started Noah in his own bed it was really hard to let him cry. I actually wouldn't do it, because it hurt me so bad to hear him scream like that. However, my mom had me on the phone one night and she coached me through it. It was a lot easier having her "there" with me when I did it and maybe it will really help her to have you there too. We just sometimes need reminding that crying is not going to hurt them (Noah was eight or nine months old at that time) and that it will be better in the long run. I only had to do the CIO twice and after that he had no problem and understood that when he is laid down in his crib it is time to sleep. Even now he's out in a snap when I put him to bed. No fussing or anything.
Good luck!
I agree with Tarra that it can be really challenging.
What I did from the early stages was have a bedtime routine. Say good-night to daddy, brush your teeth, read a story, have a small drink, good night kisses for mummy and then walk out of the room.
Usually they would go to sleep with a feed but when I weened them off the breast/bottle they would cry. With my first she would cry til she vomitted. She actually perfected the art of making herself vomit. It lasted about a week of changing sheets but I had to keep going with it b/c my dh was in the military and was on deployment for 6mths so it was just me and her.
They boys were fine. They would cry a little bit - I would go let them cry for a few minutes go back into the room tell them they were being silly - use a firm voice and they would soon go to sleep.
You just have to make sure they know that you haven't gone anywhere you are still close by, that you do still love them but it is bedtime and they need to go to sleep. Each time you leave it go for a few more minutes before going back into the room.
Good luck!!!!!!