Sad for the loss of a friend
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| Mon, 08-27-2007 - 11:28pm |
Ok I have a vent sorry it might be long but my heart is broken and mad....
So I have/had a friend named Christine. We have known each other for 15 years. We had spells of time where we lost touch but reconnected with eachother just before the births of our older kids (who are now 7) I was always there for her when she had a serious illness and spent countless hours/day with her in the hospital being there for her...so in 2005 I got married and asked her to be my maid of honor...as the words came out of my mouth I had a bad feelng...so my shower day came and her mother let it happen at her house, her mother made the food her friend (and mine) bought the game gifts her friend (and mine) came up with the games..What did Christine do...stand there and took the credit...and didnt' show up for the bachlorette poarty either. then the day of my wedding..I asked her to spend the night with me and her daughter, the flower girl, she said she couldn't do that because her daughter needed to be in her own bed. so I asked her to come to my house in the morning to help get ready because I was going to need help especially with my son (then 5)...she said it didn't make sense to her to drive 30 min to my house at 7am then to leave at 9 to get to the wedding place so she just meet us there...what ever...My poor son didn't get breakfast or a proper one because I didn't have any help and he was super grumpy...And she and her DH had a fight and so her dh and her son didn't come to the wedding costing me $ in the meals they signed up for and didnt eat... so any ways...now here we are a year and a half later and I had let all that go untill a few months ago...At my baby shower a friend of mine sent a list around for people to sign up and make dinners for my family after the baby came home from the hospital...Well Christine signed up to make a meal...My frend gave her 2 reminders and Christine even told my MOTHER that she would make a meal and asked if my mother would drive it to me...which she said she would...So her day came.............and went with no food, no phone call no nothing.....I was SO hurt. I e-mailed her and no responce. She even told people at work how she was sure I was going to be mad at her because she flaked on me...Then a few weeks later she ran into my mom at work at told my mom how she bet I was mad at her and my mom said oh yeah plenty mad...So I hear she moved about 15 min away from me recently and I have been wondering how I would react when I ran into her...So today was the day.....I went to pick up my DS from school and as I was heading back to the cross walk I hear a "Hi", then "Suprise" and it was her. And all the madness I have felt and held in came out. I just glared at her (we were around kids) She said I can take it and walked away.....A few minuted later she walked to her car and I some how walked up behind her. I actually was going to try and talk to her and before i could say anything she went off on me how it's fine you dont' want to be friends anymore my life was in shambles, I lost all my friends and I'm fine with my family now and on and on and on. I couldnt' say anything which made me madder and I finally got in "don't turn this around on me" She said she wasnt (very madly) and I just walked off cuz the kids didn't need to see that. I am so hurt and knowing I have to see her everyday now because she is picking up kids for afterschool care...I just want to cry but don't want to at the same time. It's not that she flaked on me with dinner at all it is the fact she bragged about it and never called and then today expected my reaction to be like hi how are you oh how I have missed you. Not only did she stabb me in the back she then poured salt in the wound today....I know the way she reacted today was of her own guilt but It just made the ache in my heart that much more...What should I do when I run into her again and again all year long???????? please help.
Very much appericated!!!
Jenn :)


(((HUGS))) Jenn - sorry to hear about your friend.
I was thinking of writing her a letter saying how I feel and giving it to her but haven't had the chance to do it yet. Since I can't get a word in when I tried to talk to her...What ever... If I did something that hurt a friend I would at least say sorry, but no she just got all defensive towards me because her life was in shambles and I was supposed to have ESP...Sorry to keep venting...Thanks so much for your support...
Jenn :)
Thank you for your kind words....It's her loss I just keep telling my self. I feel it was very selfish of her to expect me to be all forgiving when I ran into her but I wasn't and so instead of just simply saying I'm sorry she has now made it worse....Oh well...
Jenn