Help - I always need to leave the house!

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Registered: 09-13-2006
Help - I always need to leave the house!
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Fri, 08-31-2007 - 1:34pm

Hi Ladies!

I am new here and joined because I am a semi-new SAHM (7 months). My son is two and I find that I can't stay in the house all day. It drives me crazy if I do. I take my son to the park, shopping, on play dates, etc. He is really well behaved but, I feel like I have created this horrible routine where we play for a little bit, and then around 10:00 in the morning, it is time to "go" somewhere. If we don't, I get ansy and he does too. When I was young we didn't go out nearly as much (I came from a house of 4 kids). I guess I am just asking if this is normal, or should I try to slow things down a bit. I don't want my son to feel like he needs to be constantly entertained in some way. It's almost easier to go run errands because he likes the car ride, shopping cart, new environment, etc... I just feel like I am taking the easy way out rather than sitting down and coloring, creating a craft, etc..
We are going to have another baby soon and I know that I will have to stay around the house much more. Aghhhhh Help!

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Registered: 07-10-2005
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 2:04pm

I am exactly the same way.

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Registered: 03-17-2005
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 2:12pm

My dh is the same way.

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Registered: 05-07-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 3:32pm

Welcome to the board.


I leave the house every morning too.

 

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Registered: 01-12-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 10:58pm

HI, welcome, I wouldn't worry at all...Personally getting out everyday and staying busy I think is good. Besides if the weather is as nice where you are as it is here getting out is GREAT!!! Winter will be here soon enough and your new baby too and you'll be home more and "hunkered down for the winter" so to speak.....I have a 7 yr old ds that if I didn't get out everyday, would drive me batty...Life should be adventerous....

Con'grats on your new bundle of joy!!!

Jenn

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Registered: 01-18-2007
Sat, 09-01-2007 - 8:59am
I don't see anything wrong with that.

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Mon, 09-03-2007 - 8:57am

Great post! Being a new SAHM I wonder if I'll go stir crazy as well. Right now I do go out at least once a day, but wondered the same thing. I might try to stay in for a week solid tho, just to see what DS's nap and feeding schedule is really like (if he even has one) and then schedule our days around that.


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Registered: 08-03-2006
Mon, 09-03-2007 - 11:15am

We have the opposite problem! I have to make an effort to leave the house at least every other day. I find if I leave the house just to get out that I spend money unnecessarily. If going out everyday is what keeps you sane; I don't think there is anything wrong with it at all. You gotta do what makes you happy!

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Registered: 09-13-2006
Mon, 09-03-2007 - 1:10pm

Thanks so much for all your feedback! I thought the definition of a SAHM was someone who had to really stay at home. My son means the world to me and I just don't want to have him expecting to go somewhere every day because of my own anxiety. You all know 2 yr olds and the need for routine. Even if it is a trip to the grocery store, it helps ME. A new baby is on the way for us and I don't think I'll be able to get out as much. I can hire a nanny to stay home with our new one, but that makes me feel so selfish! Any advice from those wih two kiddos? Did you just learn to adjust?

Thanks

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Registered: 08-29-2005
Fri, 09-07-2007 - 9:27am

Hi!

I have a little experience with this (15 years lol)! I felt the same way as you. I met another sahm in the neighborhood with children around the same age as mine. We did go to the park and things like that but a lot of times we would just go to each others houses during the day. A lot of time thats all that it took was being in someone elses four walls lol!

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Registered: 06-09-2007
Fri, 09-07-2007 - 9:36pm
I'm Jess and have two sons3,1. I try to leave once a day. We need to get out because we live in a very small one bedroom apt wit two large dogs. Theres just not enough room for them to play. I try to stay home until after lunch to save money and headache.3 year olds can be picky eaters.Then I take them for a rde so they can nap and I can have some