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|Sat, 01-24-2004 - 8:29am|
(btw..I'm interviewing different positions)
My office (tiny) of 6..is very dysfunctional.. & sick/stupid dynamics there. Without explaining them all..(I've posted replies,etc here numerous times about diff. things) just wanted anyone's opinion on this "nurse" I have to work very close with..for now. Or has anyone else ever worked w/someone like this.
This person is very manipulative,backstabbing..but that's the least of your worries. She seems to be "mimicking" everything about me..what I do,say,am, dress,etc.. I can't explain it. strange! And it was so insidious..we started about the same time-me 1 mo earlier 8yrs ago. I do my job, always cheerful,etc.. & don't/didn't worry about "office politics,etc" until all of a sudden; I was drained emotionally every day..and angry & "in trouble",etc.. I realized/saw what was really going on.
When I am talking to a patient in a room.come out--I find her (unless it's too busy) lurking.. & LISTENING..THEN she "takes over" the patient--and "mimics" what I've said--ie: my care/concerns,sympathy or whatever I've had or said to the patient. She is a very cold person; selfish,.. it's quite hard to explain w/out sounding untrue. She will tell you--at least she tells me very often with cold,empty eyes..about HATING every (dirtyword) patient,etc.. "they're all trying to get drugs,faking it,stupid,ugly,etc"..and much worse. She isn't nice.......most patient's complain of her attitude/jabbing shots/etc.. except the ones she has literally mimicked what I said to them. Whatever I'm doing..........if I catch her eye.. I have to look away.. groan..I can't explain it..she has this stare... like sick... like.. wanting to know what I'm saying,etc.
She repeats things I've stupidly told her..telling "my" event/happening/problem/whatever to the others.. then giving me a smug,evil look>> !! strange.(I tell her NOTHING..when I think of it, but it's not my nature to not be open..and unfriendly,& natural,caring,etc.. for example: we were discussing our pets a while back.. I mentioned to her a friend of my daughter gave her a big lab..& "the other day I came in & found the lab had chewed several places of the sofa"... well, a couple days later.. everyone was sort of standing around chatting.. about their pets... I asked in general (wanted to scream later at myself).. if anyone's dogs had chewed their furniture...this "nurse" jumps in LOUDLY... talking FAST..tells how HER daughter's dog chewed her ENTIRE sofa up one day............everyone "exclaimed,etc" over that... this person.. gives me this smug look....... I've never known someone like this. I think it's sick. I used to confide to this person.. where I was planning vacation,eat outs,etc..... this happened EVERY time.........."like stealing my ideas.." Does anyone think this is sick???
It took me a while to see this...........she is sooo insecure.... & ...lost.. I've tried "befriending" her all these years... nothing has ever changed or helped. Many others have left the office b/c of her backstabbing. And her backstabbing is 100times worse than her.. whatever you call this stuff she does. I've seen/heard her through the yrs.. almost attack someone... for "calling her on it".. or confronting/questioning her abuot some inane thing. She's a big bully.
When I get new scrubs,shoes,hairdo/cut,whatever........SHE goes the very next day/or that evening--gets the EXACT same thing.... I've heard her tell a new employee..or someone how "we decided to get the same thing..or worse--SHE got what I did".. sick.
But the worst part of it all...........the dr. seems to adore her. And I admit, when you first meet her..and unless you truely know this being...she is very good at her "pretense of normalcy".... she gives him..and othes "my views"..if I get stupid & say something w/in earshot of her...
sorry this was so lengthy..it's just so tiring...and confusing..
I haven't told all about her.. she's done some cruel,cruel,sick things to me & others who've left.. (when you tell the dr. he.. calls YOU jealous..lol so others have left) I've seen/heard her report someone for drugs,whatever..& evily laugh to me.about getting them into trouble..etc.. she's horrible..
anyway, anyone ever work with someone like this??
I always worked in hospital..never a small office--& will never again.. smile..