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A Little Better Explanation ~
| Sat, 04-26-2003 - 3:58am |
I didn't know this board existed or believe me I would have been here before! For those who replied to my message, thank you for your love and support! That means a lot. I am 58, but the man in my life is 48 and his son is 14. We have been together for 3 years May 11th and have lived together for 2 1/2 of those 3 years. When he came into my life I felt as though I had finally met the man I'd waited for all my life, I still do. We have both been through terrible marriages and divorces. I was married for 19 years to my last husband. Had to go through extensive therapy and a wonderful support group to learn who I was and that I mattered too. Men can really destroy you and take you down. Anyway, aside from making some wonderful friends in the support group and we have all stayed in touch for 5 years now, I was experiencing the joy of independece and having my own home, but still lonely when I met Neal. We hit it off right from the start. The only thorn in this whole thing is his son. I admire him for being such a good dad, but by the same token, I think he goes overboard a little too much. When his ex-wife re-married and moved an hour and a half drive away and it's become too difficult for him to go pick up his son after school anymore, which by the way he's been doing 3 days a week, that's when he started thinking about getting an apt. across from his school so he can see him more. How do you fight someones love for their kid?
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I feel you're making the right decision in not fighting him on this issue as you're right it probably will only hurt the relationship.
If you support him in this, no matter how hard that may be for you I'm sure he'll appreciate it. You can't ask him to choose between you and his son. Give it time and see what happens.
In the mean time keep coming back here and you'll find friendship and support, Look forward to hearing from you and hope you can find some solace in knowing you are doing the right thing even though it may hurt right now.
Val
SusieK
there is no way to fight a father's love for his child. any really would you want him any other way? probably not, i'm sure.
my only advice is to be supportive of him in any way that you can. how does his son feel about you?
hope you will keep coming back to the garden.
ellen
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