Families can be so frustrating!!......

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Families can be so frustrating!!......
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Mon, 05-19-2003 - 1:10pm
DS and his little family are planning on visiting her family over the holiday week-end, and were going to stop over night and visit with my brother, niece and mother. Called my mother last night, she first said DS couldn't stay at her house, then changed her mind, in a very snotty tone of voice said she certainly wasn't going to cook, they'd just have to be satisfied eating at a restaurant. She ended the conversation by sighing deeply and in a very ungracious manner, said she would tell my brother and my niece. Well, folks, they already know as we've talked in the past before we visited because it seemed to cause less problems at the time. Now this morning DS called and wondered what Grandma said, I kept trying to put him off, saying she seemed a little grumpy and I was trying to get in contact with my brother. Now I'm sure his feelings are hurt, he's so proud of the baby and wants to show her off, looks like Grandma doesn't care! Plus my niece, and my mother are fighting so terribly, they can't be together at all. Isn't that just pathetic?? It's just ridiculous! I've tried to protect my kids while they were growing up from my mother's caustic personality, but sometimes, there's just nothing I can do. Heaven protect us all from mean-spirited, selfish bitter old women and help us not become one!!!!!!!.........TJ

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Avatar for marmoranana
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Tue, 05-20-2003 - 7:37am
Your last words were the most important ones, TJ. "and help us not to become one"

Since I work in a nursing home, I see many, many elderly women. Most of them are beautiful people, but there are definitely the others who insist on making their lives and the lives of others a sheer misery. It is sad for them because they are not happy ladies (or men for that matter).

You are a "mom" trying to protect your children. We never stop do we? That is our lot and we love it.

Lanie

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Tue, 05-20-2003 - 8:05am
TJ- Yes, they can. Memories of my maternal grandfather came back as I read your post. We would take DS to see him and he would walk away. Cold, insensitive man. We didn't stay long. DS had plenty of loving grandmothers, so I don't think he missed out on anything. Your ds & family have your love. That is what's important.

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Hope

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