Afternoon, buggies.

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Afternoon, buggies.
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Mon, 05-19-2003 - 5:57pm
Thanks to KT for answering my flag question this morning. I had forgotten about the link on the homepage. Someday maybe I will remember to check there first when I have a question about something...:-).

Been trying to get the house in order today, and have made some progress. I will keep working tonight until I run out of steam. DH is cooking a pork tenderloin on the grill tonight, and I have fresh green beans, broccoli, cut-up fruit, and rice left over from last night's dinner, so I only have to reheat those things in the microwave, and dinner will be ready.

Ladies, I don't have the energy to go into details right now, but I have something weighing heavily on my mind today -- as usual, it has to do with my DS. I would appreciate any prayers and positive thoughts and energy you could send my way. He is about to make what DH and I believe to be a HUGE mistake in his life. But he is almost 21 years old, and there is not a whole heck of a lot we can do about his decision. I guess it's just one of those times when you have to step back and "let it go" but that is so very hard to do. Everyone has to make their own mistakes in life, and learn from them. I realize that, but still, I have that Mother's urge to step in and try and save him from his own stupidity. I just want to sit down and cry, I feel so frustrated.

Thanks for letting me vent a little. Guess I just need a hug this afternoon.

Love, BB

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Mon, 05-19-2003 - 6:29pm
Here is a big {{{{Hug}}}} BB. Know just where you are at! My DS will turn 21 the end of July and I have had to do some fast talking lately. Somethings in the past couple of years I haven't been able to be very convincing and he did discover that Mom did know what she was talking about. So hang on...I am hanging on right along with you.

Prayers and hugs...

Pab

Pab

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Mon, 05-19-2003 - 6:34pm
Here's a hug to you and your DH, that you'll survive your DS's decision. Prayers that he may listen to what mom and dad's advise...and even more - that, if he doesn't, he won't be badly burned by this decision!

But, BB, just have faith that his upbringing will stand him in good stead when push comes to shove and he must face the outcome of his decision. Just be sure he knows that you'll be there for him and not reprimand him too harshly if this proves to be a bad decision.

It is just so very difficult to watch them make what we really believe to be an error in judgment, isn't it?

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Mon, 05-19-2003 - 6:54pm
Dear BB, Sending prayers and many {Hugs} to you and Your DH, I hope that your son's decisions will not put him or any one in harm! Maybe he will change his mind? I made a stupid mistake when I was 20. I bet you know what that was, yes I married with out getting to know the guy! Ouch! That was a biggie mistake! Two good things came from it though I had my first 2 DDs. What ever he does, I hope your son learns from it, that goes for your DD too! The cook out sounds sooo! Good! Hugs SusieK
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Mon, 05-19-2003 - 7:04pm
BB, I know that it is hard to hold back when we see our dear ones rushing to beat that freight train. I am here if you need to yell, scream, and vent. I pray that your DSs'error in judgement is one that is not dangerous or too very expensive and can be reversed by a little more maturity. My prayers go up for you and your family.

Hugs,

Dannie

 

             

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Mon, 05-19-2003 - 7:17pm
Hi, BB

Dinner sounds great! Wish I could hop a plane and join you. I don't eat much. ;-)

I hope all goes well with your son. This must be so difficult for you. I will pray he makes the right decision.

Take care.

F.

 

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Mon, 05-19-2003 - 7:35pm
Dear Friend BB,

These women have already said all that can be said by friends, haven't they? He will learn by doing things his own way, and you know *he* knows you love him and always will, no matter what. My personal feeling is that a parent can show no more love than when he or she steps back and lets that child/adult go their own way. It's painful beyond what he can know at this point in your son's life, and it takes more strength than he can imagine. But, some day, he will know. I hope it's not too 1)expensive, 2)dangerous, 3)going to leave lasting scars on either of you!, or 4)not correctable, if necessary, at a later date to be decided and handled by DS! You may have other options that can go into that list!

You know you have the heartfelt concern and best wishes from your Alabama friend and fellow mother of an almost-21-year-old...God help us all, eh? Love, Seren

PS Hey, I will hope this isn't your particular concern: My dear most-loved nephew, age 22, just back from Iraq for the second time, beautiful, intelligent, sweet, and 6 feet 2 inches full of stubbornness, is signing up to train for special ops...There are all kinds of situations that are making us young-at-heart types look gray and wrinkly before our time...

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Mon, 05-19-2003 - 7:39pm
(((BB))), I am so sorry to hear you are so upset about DS. I will pray that everything works out for the best and that you will get through all of this....

Love, Shari

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Mon, 05-19-2003 - 8:51pm
Hugs BB. Been there too. Hope things work out for the best eventually. MM
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Mon, 05-19-2003 - 10:19pm
For 21 years, you and DH did the best you knew how and could for DS. It is his turn to flap his wings and try to fly. If he falters, I am sure you will be right there to catch him. I will pray that he makes good decisions for himself. I know you and DH showed him the way, now it is time to see if he can read the map. Kathey
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Tue, 05-20-2003 - 12:45am
Awww..sweetie, those times are so hard. No matter what age they are, we always fret when we think they're not making the wisest of decisions. Somehow though, all works out in the end.

I will certainly pray for all of you in this matter, that your DS will rethink his plans and choose the best path to take. Big {{{{hugs}}}} to you too, you're a great mom!!

~~Susie

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