Afternoon, buggies.

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Afternoon, buggies.
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Mon, 05-19-2003 - 5:57pm
Thanks to KT for answering my flag question this morning. I had forgotten about the link on the homepage. Someday maybe I will remember to check there first when I have a question about something...:-).

Been trying to get the house in order today, and have made some progress. I will keep working tonight until I run out of steam. DH is cooking a pork tenderloin on the grill tonight, and I have fresh green beans, broccoli, cut-up fruit, and rice left over from last night's dinner, so I only have to reheat those things in the microwave, and dinner will be ready.

Ladies, I don't have the energy to go into details right now, but I have something weighing heavily on my mind today -- as usual, it has to do with my DS. I would appreciate any prayers and positive thoughts and energy you could send my way. He is about to make what DH and I believe to be a HUGE mistake in his life. But he is almost 21 years old, and there is not a whole heck of a lot we can do about his decision. I guess it's just one of those times when you have to step back and "let it go" but that is so very hard to do. Everyone has to make their own mistakes in life, and learn from them. I realize that, but still, I have that Mother's urge to step in and try and save him from his own stupidity. I just want to sit down and cry, I feel so frustrated.

Thanks for letting me vent a little. Guess I just need a hug this afternoon.

Love, BB

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Registered: 04-24-2002
Tue, 05-20-2003 - 6:00am
Dear BB - hugs to you dear lady, I have been there so many times, I can't count and can so appreciate your worry and concern.

No matter what we say or how much experience we have they only listen when its what they want to hear...at least at the age your son is at. It's only when they get a little older and have made numberous mistakes that they start to realize that maybe we do know a thing or two.

My sister and I often talk about how growing up, we didn't have anyone who cared enough to step in or even turn to when we had a problem and we definitely made our share of mistakes but we turned out ok and are strong, independent, individuals.

Whatever happens, he does have you and his Dad and if it turns out to be a huge mistake, you'll be there for him. Sometimes I think deep down they know that and it's what allows them to be so "independent" in their thinking.

Take care of yourself and remember...while you're sitting there worrying..he's doing what he wants and not giving it a thought. All the worrying won't change a thing..

HUGE HUGS TO YOU - Val

                                      

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Tue, 05-20-2003 - 7:43am
Oh dear BB. Hugs and prayers for you. Our children have a way of having us worry over them. It will turn out, dear friend. You are right. They have to learn, many times, the hard way. We did too, remember?

Thinking of you today.

Lanie

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-20-2003 - 4:41pm
Not only a big hug but tons of love coming your way Sis. You know I'm here to listen when you feel up to it.

Love, Blu

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Tue, 05-20-2003 - 5:59pm
Hi BB. Are kids wonderful ... and wouldn't you just like to choke them sometimes? It's so hard when you see so clearly that their choices are just not all they could be but, you are right, in the end they have to find out for themselves. It makes you wish you could turn back time and grab them and hold them so tight that there's no way they can get hurt. this, too, shall pass and he's a very lucky young man to have parents who are ready to catch him when he falls and help him right back up again.

(((((hugs))))), BB

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