Good Morning Ladies!

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Good Morning Ladies!
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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 7:52am
Well, let me tell you that yesterday was one of those good/bad things day.

First off, got more news about my business venture. They are putting my proposal up the the committee at the next meeting to see which funding program I am eligible for. Have started writing my business plan which is alot more involved than I had thought it would be. My counselor said I may have to put in an appearance in front of the committee once they decide. Whoa! Wont that be scary? I'm not used to doing this type of thing but I want it so badly, I'll certainly give it all I've got.

Now for the not so good. My DH, and I use that term lightly today, LOL,and I were out in the yard setting in front of a small fire in the firepit talking about our day and the usual mundane things. When I brought up a conversation we had a few days agao, he didn't remember what we had agreed on and got angry at me because I didn't see it the way he did. What makes me so mad is that I do remember exactly what was said and that started him off on a tirade of my failings and faults. OOOOOO!!!!!!

Dont get me wrong, here, I love him dearly but when he has a butthead attitude,I haveto keep reminding myself of that. Men!!

Hopefully, this evening will be much more peaceful. Have a nice day dear bugs, and thanks for letting me vent. Love, Jackie

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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 8:21am
It's good to vent, Jackie. We've all done it. We'll all do it again. It does a body good! Does wonders for our spirit, too!

I can always tell when my DH is in a bad mood. He tells *jokes* that aren't funny. That's when I go into my *planned ignoring mode*. He could say almost anything and I'll agree by a smile or a nod but will rarely *commit* to anything with words... only because I know the next day, he'll have no clue what he was concerned about or why. (usually he's over tired like a toddler) LOL!

Just thought I'd share my strategy for *domestic bliss*. LOL! ;-)It might seem like I lose a battle now and then ... but I've won the war. ;-)

Have a great day.

F.

 

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Registered: 09-16-1999
Wed, 05-21-2003 - 8:42am
Good morning, Jackie. I do what Francine does and ignore my DH when he is in a bad mood or being unreasonable. Soon, the bad mood passes and all is back to normal, and I haven't added fuel to the fire by challenging him when he is in one of "those" moods. Yes, men are certainly odd creatures! Good luck to you, and have a good day.......BB
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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 8:55am
DearBB, I have a question for you. How do I put one of those cute icons under my name in the upper lefthand corner of messages? I searched Ladybug Homepage and couldn't find answer. Thanks for the encouraging words, I know all will be well this evening. Jackie
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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 9:15am
Here ya go, Jackie.

Go to your profile, then click on "update profile," then click on "change image." That should take you to the place where you may choose your icon. If you still have trouble, let me know, as I am not very good at explaining things sometimes....:-)....BB

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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 10:37am
Thanks BB! You gals areall so friendly and I'm very thankful for all the info about things that I dont know.

I have decided that when I get all my errands run today and get the house in order, it's going to be me, a wine cooler, candles and lots of bubbles! i need Calgon to take me away. lol Hugs!

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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 11:07pm
A woman has the last word in any argument. Anything a man says after that is the beginning of a new argument.

This is just a thought that you might have looked into already but do you have an attorney working with you? Kathey

Kathey
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Registered: 04-24-2002
Thu, 05-22-2003 - 5:15am
Have to agree with Francine and BB, sometimes its easier to just ignore them...of course if it's coming right at you and its about you sometimes its difficult.

Most of the time whatever is bothering him, has nothing to do with me personally and I try to keep that in mind. I use to react and go back at him but that accomplished nothing and just put me in a bad mood. I've found that remembering all the times he has been there for me helps ease the moment. After all these years I know him pretty well and can usually know what's really bothering him...usually its business, he's tired or I've been busy and he's feeling neglected.

How does he feel about this new business venture of yours? Good luck with it. let us kow how it goes.

Val