Yawn! Stretch! Yawn! Hi Ladies!

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Yawn! Stretch! Yawn! Hi Ladies!
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Thu, 05-22-2003 - 7:58am
Morning All! I just cant get woke up this morning. It's still dark and gloomy and pretty foggy out there. Im glad I dont have to get out too early this morning.

Still having trouble with DH and so help me, if I dont find out what is hisproblem, Im going to haveto do what I usually do to straighten him out. I have a "Jackie" fit. I sit him down, tell him I've had enough and either get it together or else. He went off again last night, this time about my cooking. Made a chicken pot pie and just because I had not quite cooked chicken long enough months ago, he says " Hope its done this time."

Then he goes off about whats on TV. Sheez!!!! Well, "Jackie" fits really take it out onme but he's going to get it with both barrels tonight. Then he'll tell me what the real problem is and we can get on with life.

Hope you all have a nice day and I will try to do the same.

Jackie

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Thu, 05-22-2003 - 8:04am
Good Morning, Jackie...know how you feel about getting woke up, I am having a time this morning too.

Sorry you are still having perplexing times with DH. Do try to have a nice day.

Hugs...Pab

Pab

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Thu, 05-22-2003 - 9:12am
Good morning, Jackie. Can't you send your DH off on a fishing trip once in a while like I do? :) Actually, we both take little trips without each other every so often. It really makes you and your DH appreciate each other. You know what they say about absence!

Seriously, I do hope you can get that guy straigtened out! Will keep you in my prayers.

Have a good day and weekend.

Hugs, Shari

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Thu, 05-22-2003 - 9:48am
Thanks Shari. I have thought about going to Daddy's for the night. He always makes me laugh and feel better.

I'm sure this will all blow over, it always does. But it's sure hard to remember why I love that guy at times like these. LOL

Thanks for the prayers!

Jackie

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Thu, 05-22-2003 - 12:07pm
You know I never had any good old knock down dragouts with my DH. Sometimes wished we could but if I was mad at him for not calling to tell me he had to take the wrecker out to pick up a car(this was when we were younger). He would come in and if I started in on him he just looked at me for a minute and turned around and left. I didn't have the satisfaction of and argument or able to cry and say he was mean to me because he wasn't.

So, when he came home and I was calm he would tell me what he was doing and he would give me the check(he got extra for going out at night) I would feel like and A and after a few years I learned not to fly off the handle......lol.....

Then when we moved out here(about 100 miles from where we grew up) he would rarely leave the house and that bugged me too......then he became a volunteer fireman/emt that gave him something to do....

Damn there is just no pleasing me is there?

Just don't discount that there may be something wrong. I think when men probably more than women get older limitations really get them down....that is when you need a doctor...

Janet

 


Have a nice day !.
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Thu, 05-22-2003 - 12:42pm
You know,you are probably right. I know he has something bothering him and its like pulling teeth toget it out of him. I intend to be very nice to him tonight and I'm sure he'll fess up.

It just hurts me when he does this and it seems like the older we get, the meaner his outbursts get. He is a VERY negative person,pessimistic, and a real bigot(very predjudiced). It didn't bother me for years but the older I get, the harder it bothers me. I know he loves me and I am trying to remember that.

Maybe I'll just beathim to death and hide the body! LOL!!!!!!!!! Not really.

Thanks,dear friend! Jackie

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Thu, 05-22-2003 - 1:48pm
You can quit that every time I read that I sit here and yawn..........lol.......Janet
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Thu, 05-22-2003 - 8:28pm
Give him what fer, Jackie! Seriously, I hope you get things worked out tonight. I agree with Janet, just sit back and give him enough time, and he will tell you what is really bothering him. Good luck!.....BB
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Thu, 05-22-2003 - 10:48pm
Hope you got your man straightened out tonight. Good luck!!...Susie

Hugs,

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Fri, 05-23-2003 - 4:58am
Can't help but wonder is you're upcoming business venture hasn't something to do with is present attitude problem.

In his own mind he may be already imagining how "neglected" he's going to be once this business takes off. I know what you mean about having to throw a "fit", it does get very frustrating when they behave like "rotten little kids".

As I said I adapt that "I'll just ignore him" policy but I also have a limit to my patience and when I've reached that limit and it takes quite a bit for me to get there, I'll blow and let him have it. I will try at some point ask him what his problem is but of course if they are suffering from "potential neglect" they are not about to admit it but from years of living together I can usually pick up signs.

With my dear DH I know that lately his negativity lately has to do with business and I understand but its been going on for almost 6 weeks on and off...yesterday when I was getting ready for work, he said kidding..."Yankee Candle called and said you didn't have to come in today, so you can keep me company"..and I said..Yeah right, no chance, I need a day away from all this fun...he knows me well enough to take the hint. Once he told me that he knows when he has gone to far because I get this look in my eye and while you're right "fits" can be emotionally drainning, sometimes its all you can do.

Good luck with the situation..let us know how it all works out.

Val