the latest from me, oh my

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Thu, 12-03-2009 - 11:04am
as you know we went through the wedding from hell in march. my daughter in law and i have not been exactly close since they got married. well, she called me the other night and i was quite shocked by it.
you know she is pregnant and due to deliver in june. well, they are supposed to deploy in the fall. there is a possibility that both of them will be going to afghanistan. so, she has to make provisions for the children. she has asked her aunt and uncle to keep the girls which they have done before.
get this, she has asked dh and i to keep the baby!!!! i said yes, of course, that was a no brainer. the baby will only be a couple of months old when they leave. so if this happens we will have to get all kinds of baby stuff. at our age this will be quite an adjustment to make having a newborn in the house.
plus it will mean that bugfest next year will be out for me.
it's a good thing that dh and i are going on the cruise in april, lol
i think we will both need that before this all happens if it does.
of course i am praying that both of them will not have to go.
so, that is my big news for today.
have a good one all,

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Thu, 12-03-2009 - 11:18am

Been following this development on FB, glad you posted here also. You are one big hearted lady. Doesn't the military give any allowance for new mothers?? How long will they be gone? Adjusting to an infant could be a whole lot easier than dealing with a rambunctious toddler. I can see you now - smiling at baby in grocer cart, cuddling late at night. Oh - the memories you will have. Most importantly - how does DH feel about this?

Jacquie

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Thu, 12-03-2009 - 11:21am

This just seems wrong Ellen...not that they asked you to be the baby's guardian but that the military would deploy both of them to active duty at the same time with them having a newborn. I so hope this doesn't come to fruition.

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Thu, 12-03-2009 - 11:35am
not that i know of about the allowance. they would be gone for at least a year.

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Thu, 12-03-2009 - 11:36am
i know what you mean, i think it's wrong for her to have to go too. but there is nothing we can do about it but be there for the baby.
i just have to keep hoping and praying that they both don't have to deploy.

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Thu, 12-03-2009 - 12:05pm

Ellen,
Looks like the rules have changed in the last year -

http://www.military.com/military-report/new-army-deployment-deferment-policy

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Thu, 12-03-2009 - 2:00pm
i don't know jacquie, they are telling her to get everything in order within thirty days. she just called to make sure that the paper was signed and that dh had sent it on. she is feeling the pressure to get it all finalized.

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Thu, 12-03-2009 - 2:22pm

Ellen I'm so glad you were given this offer. I'm not sure I could have been as eager as you are.

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Fri, 12-04-2009 - 6:33am
Is she out f her mind? Are you out of your mind? Ellen, I disagree with this situation completely. You and DH will be giving up your freedome to come and go when you want to. You health is not that of a young mother. What does dh think of this? I thought there was a provision that both parents could not be deployed at the same time. This baby will not know either parent or its siblings when they return.

Kathey



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and the sky is grey

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Fri, 12-04-2009 - 7:17am
i understand all that kathey, but our government does not. they are the ones making the decisions as far as this is concerned and right now they are saying that she has to go. when the time comes it may all change we don't know. we just have to hope and pray that they let her stay home with the baby.

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Fri, 12-04-2009 - 7:55am

Wow, Ellen.


Miracles do happen, don't they?

K

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