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| Tue, 12-08-2009 - 8:14pm |
Eldest DS called to give me official details of our family holiday gathering & gift exchange. From now on, it will always be at his house on 12/24. Youngest DS wants both 12/24 & 12/25 for religious activities, but will make an exception this year and join us. Mostly because our DGrS may not be home next year, as he's almost back in the Army. So, this means this is the last year we'll be sitting around the tree telling old stories and taking pix. I've had that kid with us for every holiday celebration since he was born, even when he moved out, lived in a house with a bunch of bums and was "finding himself". Guess he's finally found himself and it doesn't always include this family.
Where's the Scotch & soda???
Jacquie

Jacquie it's good when our kids grow up, but sad when they grow away from their families. I know the pain.
Good morning Jacquie! I know how you feel. My DGD has moved to Ohio this year and wont be with us so she will be missed.
Dont know about the Scotch and soda but where's the ice cold beer? lol
Hugs, Jackie
Well, after a pretty sleepless night, I give up. If it won't bother DS to not be with family next year, so be it. Guess he's found a new family. Wonder if they know his drug, violent temper history?? Probably not, he's now turned around and I will always be grateful for that. He seems more & more out of place in our crazy bunch anyway. As long as the 2 DSs keep close, I'll be happy, cause I won't be around forever - thankfully.
Jacquie
Lives gets complicated as our kids begin families of their own and have in-laws to add to their holiday mix. Then when they begin having kids of their own, it is not fair to them to ask their children to bundle up and head off to grandparents homes instead of staying home and playing with their new toys. Could it be that your children are asking you and your DH to make the sacrifices they are asking of you because they feel you will understand their need to make changes and be able cope with it? Could this be a compliment to you?
As for the DS who has decided to spend the time with his "Church family" ... could it be that as a recovering addict he has come to understand that he needs to do this to help him stay in recovery? Many times the Church takes the place of the drugs/alcohol/etc. that they used to be addicted to. Isn't this by far a better addiction?! Maybe once he is more confident of himself you'll find he begins to ease back into his earthly family functions again.
Try to relax and enjoy the new tradition that your other DS is trying to establish. Volunteer to fix something special to take with you to share with the others and take the burden of all the work off of his wife (and their budget!), instead of cooking the whole meal yourself! There comes a time in all families when the reins are passed along to the younger generation!
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Very well put Katie.
As I mentioned in the original post venting, we have always gone to wherever the DSs decided the celebration should be. Never once asked them to pack up & come here. Even drove to AR when eldest was in the USAF. Because eldest DS & DDIL are employed in good secure, well paying jobs, they have generously opted to take on the event. They supply meat & potatoes, the rest of us will bring a side dish.
It's obvious he gets something from the church family that he needs. They also spend every Sunday with DIL's parents, who share religion & sports. Almost every invitation I've made has been turned down because they have prior commitments. Guess he is re-inventing his life. He still bears a grudge towards DH about the hard line approach DH took to the drug use when DS was a teen.
It is what it is. I just want to get the season over with.
Jacquie
I'm sorry if I pushed a sensitive button for you, Jacquie.