All stressed out and no one to choke

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All stressed out and no one to choke
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Fri, 02-26-2010 - 5:38pm

Princess is on my last nerve.
She is testing the boundaries on all sides.

She has always been an A/B student but has been slacking lately.  I called today for a check on her grades (as I told her I would 3 wks ago) and as her teachers began to call me with the information I swear my head spun round and I thought I was gonna spew I am soooo angry with her.  The teachers each said about the same thing- she comes to class, but doesn't bring her books, or her homework, she seldom does classwork,, etc. etc. etc.  Her grades have dropped drastically.


Life as she knows it has changed.
I have taken her cell phone.
I've had her carry out her TV, DVD player, and ipod from her room.  I would remove the computer but she has accidently locked herself out of it so it is not functioning now.  There are no landline telephone privledges or TV priviledges AND she is grounded.  She was supposed to go to a weekend event next week and I've already gotten my $$ back.  She will go to bed EVERY NIGHT at 9:30 - no exceptions; staying up late on the weekends is a priviledge.  I will recheck grades again in 3 weeks and if things have not improved I'm not sure what I'll do - but I'll do something.  We've got to "fix" this before it gets broken any worse.  If she brings the grades up to A/B then she has earned her priviledges back.  GRRRRRRR!!


I never did this when I was a teen, but our oldest DD did the same thing when she was this age.  Scheesh!  The "crazies" must be goin' around and DD has a good case of it.  Did you do this when you were a teen?  Did your kids do this?


Just had to vent, as I was "about to blow"!
Don't you wish you could be in our house this evening??!
I need a Margarita...no can't have a Margarita; I'm on a diet, so I'm exceedingly grouchy.



 


       


~deb

   

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Fri, 02-26-2010 - 7:02pm

I sure wouldn't have wanted to be in Princess' place when you got a hold of her. I bet she is sulking big time. Kids! What was her reasoning in being so slack in school?

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Fri, 02-26-2010 - 7:23pm

Aw, Deb, I'm sorry to hear that Princess has chosen this way to 'rebel'. I guarantee I'd never have dared do it and neither did my kids, but things were more simple back then.

 


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Fri, 02-26-2010 - 11:27pm

For what it's worth Deb, I think you handled it correctly. Any idea what the sudden turn in DD's behavior is? It sounds so unlike her.

Heck no, I never would have gotten away with that when I was in h.s. All it took was "the look" from my father and I straightened up and flew right. I didn't want to test "the look."

I'm with Katie...I don't think one little margarita is going to hurt too much. It might help a LOT.

What does your DH have to say about the whole thing?

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Sat, 02-27-2010 - 6:02am

Deb,


As one current mom

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Sat, 02-27-2010 - 7:09am

Good morning Deb. I understand how you feel. My son Russ did the same thing and we did take away his favorite things. It was before cell phones and computers so didnt have that problem. Isnt it fun having teens? lol


Hang in there and do what you gotta do!


Hugs, Jackie

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Sat, 02-27-2010 - 9:44am

Deb, your post took me back 10-12 years ago, when my DD was the same age The Princess is now.









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Sat, 02-27-2010 - 3:33pm
I hope you are feeling better today, Deb. You have done the right thing and she will probably get back on track. Raising kids just is not easy, is it? You're a great mom and she's a great kid, so it should all work out in the end. Hugs--Pat
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Sat, 02-27-2010 - 8:12pm

Hi Deb,


I'll raise a manhattan to your margarita and we'll both get back on our diets in the morning. It's all in the name of stress control. On that subject, I would make one small plea on your daughter's behalf. My daughter had a similar high school breakdown and was grounded. I remembered that the only thing that kept me sane as a teen was my music and allowed her to keep hers. She eventually pulled out of her slump as I'm sure princess will do. Just a thought. Hope you are feeling better.


Hugs,


Melissa

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Sat, 02-27-2010 - 9:39pm

Hi, Deb, I'm relatively new to this board (just found it and joined last week lol), but I'm NOT new to parenting teen girls!


This sounds just like what

In peace,
Max       

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Sun, 02-28-2010 - 4:15pm

I like your term "slump" and am praying that is all it is with regards to Princess.

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