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| Tue, 04-06-2010 - 7:39pm |
Ladies, friends I had a bad day today that promises to continue throughout the week. A very large manhattan is calming me to head out for dance lessons tonight which I hope will improve my disposition. I'm so ready to retire. A very dear friend is helping me find a way to get my finances in order to get to the place where I can quit my job. My boss is seeing nothing but dollar signs in changes he would like to make that are going to directly impact my job and the amount of work I will need to do. I just don't have the energy to face these changes. My job is already challenging enough. My friend told me that I will need to hang in there another 14 months at least to get to the place that I can afford to walk away. I can do that knowing that the light at the end of the tunnel is not a train trying to run over me. I know I'm usually the ray of sunshine and optimism here, but today I have a little black cloud hanging over my head. I really need ladybug possitive thoughts right now. Ya'll are my best friends. Please send warm fuzzies and hugs my way.
Hugs,
Melissa

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Would you like my warm fuzzy slippers? Or maybe just a cyberhug.
You are not alone in your situation. Despite what the longevity experts say, a lot of us were just not made to keep up the pace so late in life. I worked full-time till 65, then 1/2 time to 68. Before I cut back my hours, I had cleared me life of just about everything except work. Knowing there was an end in sight made this possible. It was amazing how cutting my hours in half improved my quality of life. Is the boss determined to have 1 full time employee doing the work of 2? Could you convince him to cut your hours and hire a newby for full-time? That way he could have the best of both worlds. If it wouldn't affect your retirement savings and your health insurance (assuming you have it) was covered, you might find it doable with major budgeting. Truth be told, I saved a lot of $$ those years when I cut back - too tired to travel/shop/etc. I cut my hours back when I realized that no matter how long I worked, I'd never have enough saved to travel around the world, own diamonds or as Porsche. That made it easier to adjust my sights and get out earlier.
Keep us posted.
Hugs,
Jacquie
It must be very bad at work if it's give you a case of the blues.
Thanks Jacquie, the cyberhug is very welcome. Sadly there is no cutting back. I need the income to pay off credit debt that is holding me back from quitting right now. But 14 months of focused work is do-able. I only needed a plan, and now I have one.
Dance class helped. I'm really enjoying learning to dance. My favorite is the rumba. Love the music and the moves.
Hugs,
Melissa
We call these purple hug icons "lavender bats"...LOL. I'm sending you lots and lots of "lavender bats" Melissa. I'm so sorry for the added pressure and stress this has added to your life.
I have been so happy changing jobs and getting away from being an Admin. Asst....but...today our Supervisor decided things weren't running "smoothly" enough for her. One of the other gals and I are pretty sure this is coming from a 3rd gal who doesn't like to do anything and is trying to pawn off most of her job onto everyone else. She's a good friend of the Supervisor and seems to have her wrapped around her little finger. Being the "new girl" my hands are kind of tied right now as far as rocking the boat. Not sure how to play this one out yet. Thing is...things were running just fine as they were.
I'm glad your manhattan and dancing helped your mood. We don't like and unhappy Melissa.
(((HUGS)))...
Thank you for the support Deb. My boss asked what I thought about implementing the changes he wants to make and then basically discredited my concerns. Of course, he's the first to admit he's never done my job, and that I'm the expert, (or at least that's how he introduced me to his new boss). Guess I only know what I'm talking about when he's trying to impress someone. These changes will double my workload and some of them involve compliance issues that could have a negative impact on reimbursement for services if I am not super diligent about the billing reconciliation. We could be subject to fraud issues. I just don't need this extra stress so he can make a few extra bucks.
One of the steps to getting ready to retire is selling my house. It has needs and I'm going to have to work hard getting to a place where I can put it on the market. So the to-do lists have to begin and will be lengthy. I like lists. They keep me focused and I love crossing off things as they get done.
Again, thank you. I need to get to bed.
Hugs,
Melissa
Thank you for all the lavender bats, Blu. I'll make a bat-cape out of them to ward off the evil :-). More tomorrow. Gotta sleep.
Hugs,
Melissa
(((Melissa))) I am sooooooo sorry you are having such job pains. I have found as I get older, I just don't deal with change well.
Melissa, I don't think I've ever heard you complain, so reading this post makes me realize that you are genuinely concerned about your work situation.
(((Donna))) I will pray that your tunnel has light. I am very grateful for a friend who is helping me see my way out of this hole I've dug myself into. What I need most is your kind of energy to get my house fixed up to sell. I remember all of your posts about "working on the house" before the wedding. I marvelled at your fortitude. You and I work in the same industry (health care) so I know you understand the job challenges I'm facing. I appreciate your kind support dear friend.
Hugs,
Melissa
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