bad day at black rock

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bad day at black rock
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Tue, 04-06-2010 - 7:39pm

Ladies, friends I had a bad day today that promises to continue throughout the week. A very large manhattan is calming me to head out for dance lessons tonight which I hope will improve my disposition. I'm so ready to retire. A very dear friend is helping me find a way to get my finances in order to get to the place where I can quit my job. My boss is seeing nothing but dollar signs in changes he would like to make that are going to directly impact my job and the amount of work I will need to do. I just don't have the energy to face these changes. My job is already challenging enough. My friend told me that I will need to hang in there another 14 months at least to get to the place that I can afford to walk away. I can do that knowing that the light at the end of the tunnel is not a train trying to run over me. I know I'm usually the ray of sunshine and optimism here, but today I have a little black cloud hanging over my head. I really need ladybug possitive thoughts right now. Ya'll are my best friends. Please send warm fuzzies and hugs my way.


 

Hugs,


Melissa

Hugs,


Melissa

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Wed, 04-07-2010 - 9:31am

Thank you Shirley. There are bright spots in the next few months anyway (Bugfest for one). At least I can let the countdown begin. I appreciate the ((hug)).


Hugs,


Melissa

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Wed, 04-07-2010 - 9:34am

Thank you so much BB. This garden of friends is truely a comfort. I will start a positive spin on this and start posting progress reports as soon as I can get my action plan and to-do- lists in place. I appreciate the encouragement.


Hugs,


Melissa

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Wed, 04-07-2010 - 9:39am
Yes, I can truly relate to you!
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Thu, 04-08-2010 - 10:43am
Like the others have said, Melissa, keep your eyes on the light on the light at the end of the tunnel. I'm so sorry that things are this way. I hope you enjoy any time off that you do have as much as possible while you wait out these 14 months. Hugs.--Pat
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Thu, 04-08-2010 - 11:17am

Thank you Pat. I wish you were coming to bugfest this year. I would love to meet you.


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Melissa

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Fri, 04-09-2010 - 1:21pm

Melissa,

I am so sorry to hear about your job situation. I know what it is like to dread going to work. I have been there in the past. It helps to have the end in sight. Just hang in there and take it a day at a time.

Ellen

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Fri, 04-09-2010 - 4:55pm

Hi Ellen,


Thank you for your kind support and understanding. I have kind of reduced long term thinking at work to not more than a few days out at a time. It keeps me from getting overwhelmed and anxious.


I was able to sit down with my friend last night and get the action plan outlined a little clearer and have started the process to get to the place where I can afford to retire. It is going to take some work and discipline, but I'm excited to be

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Melissa

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Fri, 04-09-2010 - 5:28pm

You know, even with a rant, you have a positive plan.

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Fri, 04-09-2010 - 7:09pm

Hi Pam,


After my friend came over last evening to help with the plan for dealing with the house, we decided that I need to fix the immediate problem areas (flooring, a non-functioning

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Melissa

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Mon, 04-12-2010 - 10:35am
Melissa, so sorry to hear that you are having such a rough time and I am so happy that you have a good friend who is obviously helping you to sort things out. Lists always help, and having a new and clear goal to work towards are the basic steps to get things in place. As you said, don't think long term at work, just the next few days, that manages to push the clouds away. It could be an excellent idea to re-finance and stay where you are for the time being. Sending you heaps of warm hugs and positive thoughts from DownUnder. Love and hugs, Jenni

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